How to stop DH interrupting?

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It's constant. When we're at home I can just say 'hey you interrupted' and keep doing that every time he does it.

Just visited friends and he interrupted me every. single. time. I. started. talking. I'd get a few words in and he just talks straight over me. It's like I'm a non-entity. I have nothing of value to impart. Nothing I say has any interest.

A couple of times I said, hold on, let me finish but he just does it again.

I wanted to have a nice time with friends so didn't make a big deal of it, but was really paying attention to whether this is the case with everyone. No one else does it. Only DH to me.

REALLY pisses me off. How do you deal with it, esp when out and about and not wanting to come across as a PITA?

Start interrupting him, see how he likes it.

Oh it's really quite easy. Always sit very closely next to him and each time he interrupts you stick him in the leg with a safety pin. Works every time.

My son interrupts everyone - he has ADHD so it's harder and he needs reminding constantly before any interaction.

I also can do this. I'm NT but struggle to know when to just stop going on sometimes.

All you can do is tell him you really struggle with it. Ask if he knows he's doing it. Explain you feel completely shut down by it.

It's impossible to tell here what the reason and intent is in this behaviour. If he has form for being domineering and controlling then that's a problem.

When he’s finished his bit, look at him blankly, then turn to the others and loudly say “as I was saying…” and carry on with what you were saying.
Maybe a bit of public embarrassment will shut him up.

Yes this is pretty effective if he isn't listening to your kind requests in advance!

"I'm sorry did the middle of my sentence interrupt the beginning of yours?"

That shuts them up mid flow.

If I saw that happening repeatedly I'd tell him I wanted to hear you finish your sentence first before he gets his turn! It's just really rude OP and he's making himself look bad.

The answer to many of these dilemmas is a water pistol. A couple of squirts straight in the face and carry on talking.

If you don't want to mess up the upholstery, "HEY! I'm talking here!" Should do the trick.

I would bring a rolled up newspaper and bop him on the nose every time he does it.

I saw some advice I liked.

Tell him please let me finish or DH it's my turn to talk now.

In a matter of fact way.

I say to DH can I make an appointment to get a sentence in?

Interrupt him back. "I'm sorry to interrupt you whilst you were interrupting me but as I was saying..."

"Shut the fuck up and let me finish, you ignorant cunt" should do it.

It's been 20 years of this but I reckon the safety pin might finally do the trick . Or maybe a taser.

Particularly love

"I'm sorry did the middle of my sentence interrupt the beginning of yours?"

can I make an appointment to get a sentence in?

"I'm sorry to interrupt you whilst you were interrupting me but as I was saying..."

Thank you everyone. I've read and appreciated every message.

OP that's quite pissing!!
It's a show of disrespect and chauvinism
My OH always undermines or devalues what I say.
He rarely listens to me when I open my mouth to a point that even when he asks where something is, he doesn't listen to the instructions of where i say it is.

Does anyone have any formula on how to make men respect OH's?

I can completely empathise with you. As I was growing up, my parents constantly interrupted me whenever I was talking (& I was a quiet child). It made me feel as though everything I said was unimportant and of no interest so eventually I barely said a word, but of course then I was criticised for being too quiet!!
Tbh, they still do it & my husband will often pull them up on it.
My mum claims it's because her hearing has declined, but her hearing was fine 30 years ago so I don't know why she thinks that excuse is appropriate.
I now initiate very little conversation with my parents & honestly, can't be bothered to listen to whatever they're talking about (often about something/one I know nothing about).
It's one of the reasons I don't feel particularly close to my parents anymore.
Sorry, that turned into a self-indulgent rant!

I have no advice except to interrupt him whenever he interrupts you, regardless of where you are & who you're with. Good luck!

There's a real arrogance within people who choose not to listen to hear. Those people either don't listen at all or listen to respond

Arrogant fuckers

I never sit near my husband if we go out with friends or stand by him at parties.

It is disrespectful. Sympathies for all us interrupted folk. Just so fed up now.

I think physical distance is a good solution. Sadly not consistently a possibility...

I statements can be a helpful tool to express your feelings without the listener becoming defensive

i feel hurt when you interrupt me it
makes me feel like a non entity and that I have nothing valueable to impart I’d prefer it if you wait until I finish before speaking

if he continues to ignore your boundaries/ wishes then you have to make a decision about what you do next

Dump the fucker. Or at least have a showdown about it.

Surely the constant disregard chips away at you? If he thinks so little of you, what's the point of being together?