I've done the right thing haven't I?

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My partner of a year and my 4yo were sat at the table and 4yo starts flicking partner on the arm thinking it's funny
Instead of just telling him to stop he flicked my 4yo hard as he could in the arm. The thud was sickening
Ds's face blanched and he ran off crying , my stomach flipped. I went after ds and then immediately told partner to leave and that we were over

You have 100% done the right thing. That reaction was abusive out and out. If you let him back in to your son's life, how will that escalate? Well done on putting your son first, and keeping him safe. 💐

Yes, no doubt whatsoever.

Of course you’ve done right thing. Kids come first every single time

You have absolutely done the right thing. A normal reaction would be for him to simply tell your 4yo to stop flicking him. Hardly difficult is it?
Not flick him back as hard as he could. What a twat!
Good for you for telling him to get out immediately.

No doubt whatsoever.

Never, ever get back together with him.

Well done, refreshing to hear a mum on here saying they ended the relationship the instant something like this happened.

Have a good Christmas without the horrible fucker!

What a power tripping cunt. Well done op. A throughly refreshing thread that you binned him immediately...

Yes you did the right thing but why on earth did you not tell ds to stop? A 4 year old should know that he shouldn't be flicking someone's arm

How could flicking his arm cause a thud sound? Your kid was being annoying.

100% you did the right thing to react so quickly, block the ex on everything.
Does your ds have a bruise?

It depends. Does your partner have a history of this type of behaviour towards your son? He obviously shouldn't have done it but if it this is the only instance then I don't know if I'd end things over it. I'd definitely be making it very clear that he never lays a hand on DS again though, no second chances. Do your partner and son usual get on? Do they have a good bond?

What had your DP done? Has he apologized and been shocked saying he didn't realise it would flick that hard and hurt him? Or did he seem to think he was clever?

A guy I dated briefly was mostly nice but told my baby 'I'm your rival' and that was it for me . I think your DP feels the same jealousy if he did it hard on purpose.

He flicked a child 'as hard as he could' to the point it made a 'sickening thud' and caused the child to run away crying.

You wouldn't definitely end the relationship if your boyfriend did that to your child?

That's very concerning tbh. Let's hope it never happens to your child.

Yes, you 100% did the right thing. No one touches your child.

100000% did the right thing! How dare he touch your child whatever the circumstances behind him doing that is irrelevant, he should not be putting any of his hands on your child. You showed this person that your child comes before anything.

If you would of let it slide or made excuses, who knows who he'd be putting his hands on next. These red flags usually amount to something far more sinister later on down in the line if you just ignore it.

Well done for standing up for whats right 🫶.

I think you now wonder whether you're overreacting as your maternal instincts kicked in and rightly told you this wasn't acceptable.

Don't doubt your instincts. You did the right thing. To avoid doubting yourself further, ensure you block this person on every avenue possible. The mans response was out of proportion entirely to the incident and suggests IMO an underlying resentment already in place. Don't stand for it.

Also, I just wanted to add, your justified reaction could save a life later on down the line he might think twice before he touches anyone else’s child now he has seen it will not be tolerated in the slightest and it is not ok.

A true gentlemen would have laughed it off or told him to high five him instead you know something like that. As in diffuse the situation, not act like an immature, abusive idiot that let a child rock his world so much to act out like an absolute weirdo.

Your son will grow up loving you immensely for always protecting him above all else.