Situationship with a guy

[aarati]

hello, i am in a talking stage with a guy since past 6 months and we have met like 4 times over this period in person but in between past 2 3 month we only catch up like once a month over a text . i kind of let things go since i dont like playing game. he was busy with his uni and all but i could seee him online and not reaching out to me so i stoped giving him any energy .recently he reached out to me we should catch up for christmas and told me to let get drunk but i said no cause it felt like so casual stuff.i think i need clousure to this situation and talk with him about i need consistence effort and commiment so should i ask him out for christamas and close this over text or let things be and dont reach out?can anyone share me your opinon is it okay to reach out ?

No. Let this one go.

Words like 'situationship' only get used when we don't like the alternative description for the interactions we have with someone.

"I put a lot of effort into keeping in touch with someone but they don't make the same amount of effort to keep in touch with me"

"I take an interest in him but he never asks me questions, just talks about himself"

"I remember things about them, they don't seem to remember anything I tell them"

"They show an interest when it's convenient for them but not when they've got something better to do"

All of these are just ways of saying you're not in anything with this person, you've just come into contact with them a few times. Stop making an effort and see if he shows an interest beyond 'we'll both be in the same place, might as well hook up'.

Don’t do anything. Patch him just like he’s done to you. He’s only looking for a hook up so you don’t owe him anything. I would just ignore him. Block him and move on.

Ignore him and move on. He’s wasting your time. You deserve better.

There's nothing to end here. You'd like it to be more, it isn't. That's ok. You'll meet someone who does want more. Don't get in touch just for the sake of getting in touch.

I agree with everything that's been said.
Stop investing in someone who obviously doesn't want to invest in you.
He's showing you who he is. Believe him. There's nothing else to be gained here.

If a man really likes you you wouldn't have to actually tell him you need consistency and effort. He'd already be doing it.
A man who doesn't give a crap will just get in touch when he fancies a hook up.

You have the latter unfortunately. You don't need closure, theres nothing to close.
Just message him that you feel it isn't working for you and wish him well. Then delete.
Its hard to hear, but he isn't bothered about you. even with being busy with Uni as his excuse. A man who wants something serious with you lets you know and they find the time!
If you're left guessing, just move on.