DH is an amateur musician and performs at v high level. He recently joined a music group that has been running a series of concerts at a prestigious venue through December. The concerts happen twice a day on a Sunday through December and now will take place every day twice a day in the run up to Christmas. There is also a once weekly rehearsal. The performances are not just a few hours. Yesterday’s effort was 14 hours including journey time warm up and events.
It has meant every Sunday during December and now everyday in the run up to Christmas I am doing childcare, xmas prep alone, following a week of busy full time work. I have also been really unwell with a bad cold over the period. DH then disrupts my sleep further when he arrives back late.
The venue is packed out and each concert must make huge sums but the group doesn’t even provide a couple of free free tickets to families of participants. Last night, sick with flu and disrupted sleep, I got to the end of my tether with it all.
DH loves his music and it is a brilliant experience but am I wrong in saying this cannot go ahead next year without significant revision. I also feel that I might also drop a quick note to the group administrators - who talk about wanting to attract younger members - congratulating them on a successful concert series but asking them to be mindful on the pressures on families in the background accommodating their bonkers schedule!
DH has said that he didn’t understand the sign up process and felt that he had to put his hand up for more concerts as a new member. He said he had put TBC for some dates but then had been roped in for the whole thing.
It is only one month a year and for good causes and DH gets lots from it, so part of me feels it is the flu talking and I should I suck it up. Would be good to get views - especially from those with experience of family members doing high level amateur arts stuff.