Ling planned trip with friends and children. Would you still go after he cheated?

[maripo]

Hi all,

here I am... Another woman that found out my partner is cheating on me Found out yesterday, confronted him and he admitted. We have a child, not married. For weeks we planned a trip abroad for New Year, all together with friends and their child. Accommodation is already booked and paid in full. Would you still go after finding out about his affair? I was thinking to not go, but we will loose money and disappoint our friends :/ (I know I should think about myself..). I feel overwhelmed by all emotions and do not really know what to do :(

Go on the trip with your child.

He can stay at home,

I agree, leave him at home.

I agree too. You go and enjoy yourself. He can stay at home

@maripo, is this the same Player who was sexting an OW several years ago? If so, he is clearly a serial cheat and liar.

Whether he is the previous loser or a new one, you should not go on this trip together. For me, being abroad with my adulterous abuser both in private and in social situations with friends would be an absolute misery.

I hope you are planning to kick him to the curb.

Don’t you cancel - you and your child should go and enjoy it! He can stay here.

I cannot go without him :( We re travelling by car (around 10 hrs trip) and I do not drive :/ I cant stop thinking what to do, but I keep asking myself one question - what I really want deep in my heart. And I cant imagine spending 5 day trip together pretending that nothing happened :(

Get train and taxi.
You need to find ways to get around without him.

Yes, OMG I forgot about this old thread of mine! That makes me thinking how stupid I am that I even considered going together!!

If you are going to forgive him, go on the trip altogether, if not you go with your child and friends and leave him at home.

Figure out a way to get there without driving. And without him.
You go with your child - there will be a way.

He doesn't get to go because he is a cheating scumbag and why the hell should he cheat you and your child out of a holiday aswell?

Tell your friends the situation and perhaps they may have a solution for you also.

If you end up really not being able to go, and HE goes, make sure his stuff is on the front lawn by the time he returns. Preferably stick it out there the second he leaves so its as rained on as possible.

Do not put your friends in this position, it will not work out well and could spoil their holiday.