should I continue to support or is he trying to fade from me? Past bad situations have me seeing every situation as negative.

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I (met this guy organically out at an event and we literally liked each other straight away, texting and calling everyday (as he should) I never ever worried I wasn't going to hear from him like guys in the past. Week one we met for brunch as an ice breaker, I pretty much told him then that I'm not really around for fun or just sleeping with someone I want to get to know someone for more. He said he does too and he is open to it. More dates, he even got a ticket for me to a concert with his friend and his friends gf. Ive been to parties put on by his friends to support, he introduced to me a friend who said (I'm always hearing your name so it's good to meet you). He owns his own business and even had me speak at one of his events because I said I'm not confident speaking out. We only slept together after 3 months (it's been four months in total) I finally told him that I'm getting to know him to see what this can be he said same " I hope it can be" and I said I'd prefer if he wasn't intimate with anyone else and he said, running his own business he wouldn't even get the time for anyone else so totally fine.
Recently I messaged him one Monday and he said it's been a really tough day at work and that he just needs time to focus to get to grips with things. I didn't think of it at first so said I'm so sorry all good il leave you to it for today and gave him space. Next day he didn't even send a morning message but did reach out to say he appreciates my patience. I asked what's happening he said it's work and that he's trying to pattern himself mentally and think of next steps. (I really do think he has ADHD, when things get on too sometimes he just shuts out. He thought this too) I've heard this excuse before and asked straight out, are you ending this or do you want to? He called me to say no he doesn't want to, but he asked advice from a friend and they said they would cut if they were me so he said to me however I feel is justified and he understands. I said to him do your feelings remain the same about seeing yourself with me etc he said yes I said then I'm aware its not always going to be smooth il support where I can but if you are doing this to end things, I'd rather you say now and it's totally fine I don't want to assume you just need to tell me directly. He said no he doesbt want to he misses me. Gave it a couple of days he didn't change his mind. He checks in on me asking how I'm doing and how my day was but that's all the capacity he can. it's just not the same volume as before .
Recently I saw him and he gave me a present which was a gold bracelet. He explained his business is in trouble so not sure what the future is hence why it's affected his mood. He said to me he doesn't want to stop seeing me.
feel like I am being silly but sometimes I think should I continue to support. We became intimate after two months and it doesn’t feel sexually led. We haven’t met up in a house setting for a while mainly out so it doesn’t feel like he’s keeping on for other than genuine interest. I like him a lot and happy to continue, I just don't know if I'm being silly and not reading the room?

I don't massively see how you're supporting him other than a daily text asking is he ok. He's text you regularly, thought about, bought and has given you a present and has consistently reassured you about his feelings for you and his desire to continue this relationship. It seems, that given your prior experience, you have jumped immediately to the worse case scenario.

If his business is truly in trouble, that's where his attention will need to be. I'm not sure how he can/should continue to reassure you.

I would think if he's in danger of losing his business/ livelihood he's quite rightly focused on this at the moment.

If you keep asking him if he wants to leave you it could plant a seed. Some people keep asking if you still want to be with them because they want out but don't have the guts to say so. He also may come to think you don't trust a word he says because you keep asking the same question.

If you really want to be in this relationship you should recognise that loads of daily contact isn't sustainable in the long term and if he says he wants to keep seeing him, perhaps you should try trusting what he said on that front

So you’re still physically seeing each other and texting daily but this is less than before? But you’ve only been going out for 4 months?

Yes, last week was the first time I saw him since 2 weeks.

Maybe it is is different in real life but you are coming across to me as needy

That, to me, is not sustainable for

I will kid take a step back and let him focus on his business. You're only going to get scraps at this point and you'll end up feeling sidelined. I think you should say that you think he should concentrate on his business and get in touch again when things have improved. In the meantime go out, live your life and put him to one side. Now is not the time.

This type of distancing behaviour will turn you into a nervous wreck. Find yourself someone who makes you feel secure. I don’t know that anyone is worth this sort of anxiety. Imagine being with someone who makes you feel safe and comfortable - then go and find that.

It’s far too early in the relationship for this sort of avoidance of you.

Have a think to see if you might be a bit high attention needs for some. Although there are plenty of people who would love that sort of partner.

This. You sound very anxious, as in, anxious attachment style. (?)
Give the guy a break. He keeps saying that no he doesn’t want to end it and you then keep asking if he wants to end it. By continuing this you will eventually drive him nuts and he will want to stop seeing you. Try to chill out a bit, distract yourself with other stuff and definitely stop asking him if he wants to end it.
That said, if the level of face to face contact is not enough for you, and you think he won’t be able to give you what you are looking for, you can always put a stop to the relationship yourself.

You're coming across as very needy. I'm not sure why there's a problem when people need to focus on their life such as a business. Modern dating seems to be full of anxiety and unmet expectations. Texting multiple times daily, chasing up texts, and attention.
It's very suffocating, however, it's a common theme on Mumsnet especially with relationships in their infancy.