Crush

[Jazmine40]

Please can someone advise me?
I have a crush on my kids school teacher, I'm in a relationship and I know the teacher is married too. He stares at me all the time, since I noticed I too am feeling something for him and cannot wait till I see him at home times. I haven't said anything to him and maybe I'm wrong into thinking there could be something there. Just confused

Crushes are part of being a human, there are lots of people we could connect with, it doesn't mean we should. Often they happen when there is a part of us that we have neglected or that we miss and a new person makes us connect with that version of ourselves.

What happens next depends entirely on where you focus your thoughts. You can keep indulging in fantasising about this guy (seems a fun bit of escapism I'm sure) and you are probably going to end up very confused and possibly make a terrible mistake.

Or you could throw your energy into finding that version of yourself you miss and rediscovering her - perhaps finding novelty in new hobbies or making new platonic friendships. And... put some energy back into crushing on your partner instead.

Hope this helps.

It doesn’t matter if something is there, @Jazmine40. This man is another woman’s husband and is off limits. You can choose to do the right thing and not act on your infatuation. You would be playing with fire if you declare your crush…potentially destroying your family and his.

Give your head a shake and redirect your energy elsewhere. Do you want your child to be an object of gossip or a victim of infidelity when it gets out that you and his/her teacher have begun a flirtation or started an emotional/physical affair?

It's irrelevant if you think there's something there. He's married and he's your child's teacher. He's not free to date you. We don't all need to act on every crush and in time they fade.

Good advice from previous posters!

It happens but to stay out of trouble imagine he actually doesn’t like you and is staring cause he sees you staring and thinks not another weirdo tragic mum with no life having a crush on me.