Am I being ungrateful?

[Dobedo1]

My husband and I have been together for 17 years, he’s always put a bit of effort in for birthdays and Christmas’ but more effort was made for the first few years rather than recent years but honestly it’s gone from bad to worse.
It’s Christmas in a matter of days and so far he hasn’t got me anything (I’m the only person he has to buy for). I sort our 3 kids, family, friends and his family agree to buy for birthdays only and avoid Christmas completely, therefore, he has it SO easy. Yet every single year he NEEDS a list of a few things to buy me which makes me feel like he doesnt take time to know the things I like. He will stick to that list only and will buy everything at the last possible moment. If I didn’t give him a list he would go to the supermarket and pick up chocolates, deodorant, my favourite and drink and be done with it.

Anyway my question is should I feel disappointed that he never puts thought or effort into the gift buying or am I being ungrateful?

You are not ungrateful to want your DH to put in a little bit of thought and effort.

Honestly, I think you sound ungrateful. I'm not a natural present giver and my partner gives me a list of things to buy.

YANBU, it’s sheer laziness imo. Your partner should know what you like and put some effort in.

deodorant? Do people buy that as a present? Is that not essential? If my husband bought me deodorant, I'd be paranoid and a bit annoyed.
Seriously though, if he's good in every other way, cut him some slack. Maybe when you give him his present, gently mention how you hope he loves it as you really tried hard to get him something thoughtful. If that doesn't plant a seed, nothing will.