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Shy awkward

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JohnFrancis · 22/12/2024 14:16

Hi there, all women, I'm a 63 year old guy very awkward with women, I know at my age it's ridiculous, I know it, but always have been, I believe a lot this all stemmed from religious education that my mother sent me to weekly, she learnt later that it was not good, too little too late, my mother was great btw, she didn't know, I was taught sex is dirty, lust is sinful, masturbation you'll go to hell, fornication???? Blah, blah, blah. I know it's all crap, I know but I was 12 years old, it's all up there in my head . Please don't recommend counselling I can't do it,it's too embarrassing, I get told by women I'm attractive I look maybe 15 years younger than I am, and told I look trim and fit, which I do work on, but I can't relate to them, they say things like, ahh he's so lovely isn't he shy it's so cute. Throwaway words, they have no idea how crippling it is, it's killing me, I don't want to get depressive but I was my mothers carer for the last 15 years, she passed last year, now I'm on a dating site looking for a partner/soulmate. Not a fling. It's a mess they are either too old or too young, too far away, or scammers. I would like to hear from women themselves, from women's mouths not guys. I feel so pathetic I could cry for myself. Please don't say counselling I can't. Thank you in advance.sorry for the long post. Any advice I would appreciate.

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nodramaplz · 22/12/2024 14:42

Join some clubs?

SeniorWhippy · 22/12/2024 14:45

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ThisWillBeOurYear · 22/12/2024 14:51

@SeniorWhippy I'm sure John wants an equal partnership with a woman and isn't so insecure he needs to buy one to boost his ego.

But @JohnFrancis how do you think you are going to manage a relationship if you can't even talk about things with someone who is trained to be non judgemental?

slightlydistrac · 22/12/2024 15:24

If you are of a particular faith, do you think you would be able to speak to your minister of religion?

ItWasntMyFault · 22/12/2024 15:33

I would take up a hobby where you can meet women without it being awkward - maybe a walking group or playing bowls etc - once you get to know people as friends it will be a whole lot easier.

JohnFrancis · 22/12/2024 19:38

ThisWillBeOurYear · 22/12/2024 14:51

@SeniorWhippy I'm sure John wants an equal partnership with a woman and isn't so insecure he needs to buy one to boost his ego.

But @JohnFrancis how do you think you are going to manage a relationship if you can't even talk about things with someone who is trained to be non judgemental?

Hi there, thank you for what you said, I can imagine what the other guy said, and I'm 99% sure it was a guy, When it comes to sex guys are full of it! it was deleted under guideline rules, so maybe just as well I didn't see it, but I gather from what you said he was on about a call girl/prostitute. I couldn't do that it's not in my nature, that would be soul destroying, to pay for it, it would not help in any case, of course I've had relations before, but I'm older now, when younger its easier you're at school, college, clubs, pubs, discos, oh ffs, discos! Shows how old I am! Also times have changed women expect so much more from a guy now, I believe it's the internet, anyway I don't want to bore you, just wanted to say thank you. I know I will have to get some counselling, I've no other recourse. Thank you so much.

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Ontobetterthings · 22/12/2024 20:13

Have you tried meeting someone through a club or church? That would be a good way to meet at your age. Don't be hard on yourself.

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