Hey all
I recently started dating (4 weeks ago) a man and we’ve met up around 6 times. I haven’t had a relationship in 3 years and been on countless dates over the years. I hadn’t felt a spark quite like this one when we first met. He agreed he was suprised how well we got on. As I’m very guarded he has done most of the pursuing but I have always expressed my interest, how much I enjoyed meeting up, can’t wait to see him again etc. He was very intense in the beginning expressing how keen he was, making future plans etc.
my issue is that whilst the first two dates were in public we’ve only seen each other late at night for sleepovers during the last 4. I’m worried that we’re falling into a casual thing which I’m not looking for. I’m stuck between the fact it’s so early on I want to give it time but I want to also make my intentions clear. He has been unwell all week so when he called me to discuss weekend plans I said we should do a date night and he agreed we have to do more activities. We were due to have one tonight but instead he came round last night to stay over. He didn’t mention meeting up again tonight so I asked him what his plans were and he said his friends were coming over and that he’ll now see me after Christmas! (He is going home to his parents for a few days).
He seemed in a hurry to leave this morning. After he left I went upstairs and he’d left a card on the bed with a small gift. We didn’t discuss gifts so I hadn’t gotten him anything. I messaged to say it was sweet and thank you and he told me to have a nice Christmas. I was planning on getting him something for his trip next month so I said I would give this to him when we next meet. I feel more confused now about how he feels etc. I know the obvious answer is to ask him but I’m don’t want to scare him off early doors!
I should add we’re both 30.
Any advice appreciated!