Is begging for another chance.

[Lll898]

I'm sure my partner suffers from what can only be called pathological lying

He fabricates stories so always the best at whatever it maybe, and is regularly caught.
Now the breaking point for me is a driving license.

Go back a few years and he said could I support getting him a car as wanted to change jobs so I did, agreed he would pay HP and insure etc with me as named and even paid for a contract drawn up in case of spilt so I wasn't stuck paying for it.

The point is his never had a driving licence it only came out through a letter that arrived from insurance company as car no longer needed, when I challenged the insurance company they told me I wasn't named policy was in my name.

Surely this is fraud too ?
Apprantly he failed his test 25 years ago and never told anyone he had done so has done this to previous partners and never been caught.

I have asked him to leave as it's not just the lie but you have used my name my details in secret and drove me and my kids without anything should he have hit someone been done for speeding it was all on me.

His begging for another chance but surely this is beyond a sorry what else is someone capable of

Absolutely break up with him.

Am I reading your post correctly?! You helped buy him a car, he took out an insurance policy - you thought you were a secondary driver, but in fact he had you listed as the main policy holder and he wasn't even on the policy?! You then cancelled the policy as you no longer needed the car and discovered he doesn't have a driving license, yet has been driving the car?! OMG!! He took out a policy in your name, when he knew you were only expecting to be a secondary named driver, without your permission. He's been illegally driving without a license or insurance. Are you the owner of the car? The registered keeper isn't necessarily the owner of the car. If you do own the car, and the insurance (unbeknown to you) was solely in your name, then if he'd been stopped by the police, you'd be in the shit. If he'd had an accident whilst driving, the insurance would have been invalid, and you'd be in the shit. He's lied over a driving license, it's such a stupid thing to lie about! Why not be honest and say, I don't have a license! Why has he never retaken the rest? I would be concerned about what else has he lied about and going forward, how can you trust any words out of his mouth. You can't, therefore I can't see how you can move forward.

I'm not one to usually recommend it, but in this case I would report him to the DVSA and the police as well.

He failed his test. He's not safe to drive, he would always be uninsured - what if he had hit someone? And as you say, he's done it with previous partners so you can be sure he'll do it again in future if not stopped.

And yes, of course you break up with him, that's not a small lie and certainly not unintentional.

How could you ever trust another word that came out of his mouth?! If he told you the sky was blue, you'd have to check.

I knew a man that did similar only he had a license and lost it for either drink driving or speeding but he lied so much no idea. He had an accident and told everyone involved his brothers name including the insurance and the police. He NEVER told his brother.

My point is that it seems that your ethics and values don’t align with his. Also he probably has accrued speeding fines in your name and just opened the mail, paid them and not told you.

So a pathological liar will stop overnight?

Are you that gullible?

I wouldn’t even call this a lie, he’s scammed you and left you open to devastating legal and financial consequences. It’s up there with getting you to “invest” in his business and running off with your life savings.

There’s no question about believing him and giving him a second chance, the question is whether you report him to the police or not. In fact, I bet his begging for you to give him another chance has little to do with actually wanting you back and everything to do with manipulating you into not reporting him.

Report him.

Oh, just leave him.

Truly appalling behaviour. So selfish and potentially dangerous.

I would 100% report him to the police.
He is more than a liar, he is utter scum.

Get him out of your house and report him to the police.
He will do this again.

Yeah this is not lying about how many pints you had or whether you flirted with someone at a dance. This is potentially life altering consequence lying. Totally not ok. Best to leave.

He failed the test as he can’t drive properly which means he’s a danger to everyone.
Do you want someone’s injury or death on your conscience because it will be if you don’t report him to the police and get him off the roads.
He’s a user, liar and has no respect for you or anyone else.
You know he won’t change- how low is your bar?

Thank you for the replies.

Makes no difference at all but no speeding tickets etc and the only reason I found out as the car has gone and insurance policy cancelled / expired, they wrote to me informing me of my ' no claims bonus ' I had built on this car. If this letter had not come I still wouldn't know. Still when confronted tried blaming the insurance company not telling the truth. After a week or so of demanding to see proof he admitted failing his test 25 years ago.

I do want him to go, and as put above how do I ever believe another word. He has been begging for another chance but I think in my own mind as I feel so stupid I needed to check I wasn't being rash with my decision