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Not sure why I’m angry about what ex has done

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catphone · 19/12/2024 12:40

I know it shouldn’t matter anymore but I’m trying to process all of my feelings in order to fully move on.
I have been battling with severe mental health issues. During our relationship he would bitch about me with a female friend who was apparently engaged. I didn’t know more than her first name and a photo of her. It was apparently controlling to object to that.
she created a new account where she went over what’s “wrong” with me, it mentioned things like I shouldn’t be allowed to have children, can’t look after myself and can’t contribute to society and then after it all she told me to kill myself at the end and signed it off with her name.
I wasn’t aware until then what he had been saying about me to her and it is the reason I stopped trying to have any kind of relationship with him, and I spoke to him trying to get information out of him about who the person was at the time.
I was too afraid to report it to the police and didn’t feel I had enough information to do so anyway.
He apparently spoke to the friend who said it was her own friend who had sent the messages. I went back to find the message so I could show it had been signed off with her name but it had been deleted. I’m sure it was her because she had an agenda as she loved him.
The problem I have is that after all this time he is pretending he was unaware about the messages that we fell out over. He said that when he found out he was very angry. And that enrages me because he didn’t seem to care at all at the time and I’m sure I made him very aware.

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StormingNorman · 19/12/2024 12:43

Lying cunt. This would enrage me too! But the only advice I can offer is to try and move past it. You don’t have the screenshots and you’ll never convince him to admit the truth.

SpringleDingle · 19/12/2024 12:57

Block him, delete his number, never speak to him again. You cannot heal yourself whilst chasing around trying to work out why he did what he did or trying to prove to him that you have a right to be upset.

No one bitten by a snake was ever healed by chasing the snake and trying to get it to appologise!

Take time for yourself, care for yourself, heal but stay 1 million miles away from him and all his flying monkeys

MammaTo · 19/12/2024 13:38

Don’t engage with them anymore. Draw a line under it and move on, you’ll never get answers or closure from him so don’t chase it.

Epidote · 19/12/2024 13:47

He did that because is vile. She did that because she is vile. Don't look for more reasons. Move on and have a wonderful future.

StrawberryWater · 19/12/2024 14:34

They're scumbags. Not much else to it. Block and move on.

If you have kids with this gross man then get a dedicated parent app and only communicate about the children.

MsCactus · 19/12/2024 15:26

Agree with pp. He's vile. Ignore

EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 19/12/2024 16:23

It sounds to me like he sent the messages himself. There is no woman. All part of his campaign to batter your self-worth into the ground.

catphone · 19/12/2024 16:46

EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 19/12/2024 16:23

It sounds to me like he sent the messages himself. There is no woman. All part of his campaign to batter your self-worth into the ground.

I was wondering that, after those messages he started saying similar things to me himself. I thought he might be behind the account. I’ll never know the truth. But the woman is real

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catphone · 20/12/2024 12:58

I know she exists because she called his phone when it was on charge and he was here in the other room and she asked to speak to him and their phone call was private.
I’m not in the least bit attracted to him and am repulsed by him

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