Dies true love really find a way?

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Today has been the first day of a break up with the love of my life. I feel lost, empty and completely broken! I don’t know what to do, or where to turn and it’s really eating me up. I’ve lost appetite, the things I had an interest in l, I don’t anymore. The worst thing is that we are both still in love with each other and best friends but time has taken its toll on our relationship. I know I should give space, but I just need to talk to them, I need them in my life. It’s like I’m addicted! Does true love really find a way?

Yes, but true love is only a thing in fairy tales, romantic novels and rom-coms.

That was my mindset before, but until you feel it you don’t know

"True Love" sounds like you think he's the only one for you, but I know that isn't so OP.

If you have no contact with him - at all - I can confidently state that this time next year you'll be indifferent to his existence.

Unless, of course, you hang on like grim death to a fantasy of what Love is.

Do you want to feel indifferent about him?

No, I don’t. I know the they are the only one for me

May I ask how old you are?

36

If it’s true love, and he’s the only one for you, why have you split?

Alot of complicating factors

Oh dear, you've fallen for the BS fairytales, that's tradgic. You sound over-dramatic too "the things I had an interest in, I don't anymore" geez, it's less than 24 hours, you are being ridiculous. I doubt he feels the same way you do, he's probably got more sense.
Give it time, the next love of your life will come along, and you'll realise how familiar the feelings are, and not exclusively for one person in life at all.

Ignore those who think you are being dramatic. A break up hurts like hell. I had one a month ago so should know. I didn't eat for 3 days because food just made me want to be sick, sleep is still off and cant concentrate.
Do what you need to look after yourself and talk to friends and family for support.

And they won’t go away. If your relationship could survive the ‘complicating factors’, you wouldn’t have split.

He was only the love of that time in your life. You’ll find love again and you’ll be fine. It’s only been a day. It will take some time but you will move on and be happy again. Everybody does. Everybody. We all go through it. Usually, down the line you realise, if I had stayed with that person, I wouldn’t have had the opportunities and experiences I’ve had since or met the person I’m with now. Learn from it and move on to something and someone better.

Sadly, this is true.

True love and Romance don't feature in real life.

Did he drop you? If so, he does not think it is as great as you do.

I am in agreement with all the pps: true love will conquer all etc is a bs fairytale that only exists to support the patriarchy.

You've got some grieving to do, it's going to feel bleak and lonely for a while. That's a temporary situation. Eventually the grieving will recede and you'll recover.

Give yourself sufficient and please challenge the bs fairytale narrative.

It simply is not true.

There's more than one person with whom you can enjoy a mutually good lasting loving relationship.

But if it was 'true love' you'd be able to navigate the complications and still be together.

Sorry OP... he's just not that into you. Block him and move on. If you try to keep him as a friend you'll never move on. Open your eyes and see it for what it was... fun and lovely while it lasted, but it's over.

Ouch!!! A little compassion maybe?

OP, there is no such thing as 'true love' really. There is love, connection, commitment and bonding, shared interests and goals, working through problems and enjoying each other's company. If you have all of those things in place then very little can break you apart. If you're being broken apart then something isn't quite connecting. It's up to you both to decide if those barriers can be overcome, not to some mythical true love force.

I'm guessing you're the affair partner here.

Yeah this is how I’d feel as well. Maybe it is a bit of a fairytale but I love my husband deeply, I’d say he is “the one” for me, I love him more today than I did yesterday and it is like that every day, we’ve been through a lot, huge stresses, illnesses, arguments, house moves, job losses, death, pregnancy, postpartum, newborn days etc- not once did either of us ever think of walking away because we are stronger together, we hold each other up and keep each other going. THAT is real love, it’s not the pretty things you see in films or books, it’s the ugly days of love, it’s the quiet and calm love that gets you through the worst of things.

He isn’t the one for you.