If you said the wrong name in bed

[Kurtin]

How would your partner react?

What would be an ideal response?

Context: you were in a 5 year relationship prior with said person

It really depends. If it was aname I recognised I'd ask about it after.

Sometimes randomly, my brain produces thoughts and the next thing you know it's outta my mouth. Or someone, something has been being in the back of my mind and its cone out. It doesn't necessarily mean I was thinking about them sexually. Just that they were on my mind.

Why? Which are you in this story? The blurter or the offended?

I wouldn't be over the moon (who would) but I suppose it depends if he'd only just finished the 5 year relationship. I still wouldn't be happy though. Is there any reason to believe they're still seeing each other. Is he still in love with her?

My ex did this to me, but at the time I brushed it off. No other red flags flying. We've now split up and hindsight is a wonderful thing 😡

I can't even call my dog or my DC by the right name. If I had a partner, he wouldn't stand a chance!

This is why I only date men called Richard.

I think my partner would take it in his stride. I'm forever getting names wrong. Neuro conditions and medications don't help. I've never been a great one for saying names in bed which helps. I conflate it with being told off at school.

How long have you been together? I assume it’s a relationship rather than fwb or married as you said partner?

I wouldn’t be happy and neither would Dh.

An ex boyfriend once whispered to me in the throws of passion "I really love you Sarah"

Then corrected himself because my name was not Sarah. It was however the name of his girlfriend before me who I strongly suspected he still had a thing for. I never really got over it. It just cemented my suspicions

Omg are you me? I had the exact same thing and with the name Sarah as well.

I didn't think anything of it, more that he was a muppet and it was never going to work anyway. So wasn't actually bothered.

Sarah is quite the woman. 😂

Haha @GivingUpFinally Was your Sarah a glamorous rock star type with an ED? Because mine was. My ex used to proudly boast about how little she ate.

I look back and cringe that I ever cared about a man like that's opinion of me!

This made me genuinely laugh out loud. Thank you!

This is why non-referential words like 'darling' or 'stallion' were invented. 😀

Stallion

Not a clue. I honestly was more amused than anything else. He was mortified and said she was the gf before his 2x previous gfs. He was scraping around for an explanation and was mortified.

He did always mention his many previous gfs. Not usually with names but just random stories about them, like I was to be impressed by his prowess or something along those lines. He was a weak pathetic man with little man syndrome. I didn't always listen or believe his stories.

Not sure what ever actually attracted me to him.

I'm very pragmatic about misnaming or random brain blurts. I'm more fascinated on why they thought what they did and what brought it about. I'm hard to offend.