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Daughter in laws

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OldTinHat · 18/12/2024 11:02

I just wanted to say how fabulous my DIL is. Actually, she's not married to my DS (and that's another story), but they've been together 10yrs since they were 16.

It's a joke that she calls me MIL, I call her DIL, but she is just like a daughter to me. I love her to bits.

So, to all the DILs and MILs out there who do get on - merry Christmas to you all! You're fabulous.

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user1474315215 · 18/12/2024 11:51

I have an amazing DIL. I'm as close to her as I am to my two DDs and we really enjoy spending time together. I count my blessings.

FetchezLaVache · 18/12/2024 11:54

I am a fabulous DIL and I know I am because my birthday card from my beloved MIL said so!

(I'm on my second marriage and both MILs have been absolutely wonderful. I have a DS and hope to have a similar relationship with my own DIL one day.)

user1498572889 · 18/12/2024 11:55

My daughter in law is great. Not so much my son in laws.

wishuponamoon21 · 18/12/2024 11:57

Awww I used to have a fab relationship with my MIL and she would call me her second daughter, we spent lots of time just the 2 of us. For 7 years. Then we got married and had a child and she completely changed. What a shame. I am glad some people still have that relationship! I miss it very much.

missod · 18/12/2024 12:12

I had a lovely MIL. She was pretty hopeless at just about everything, but had a big heart and loved us all. She raisedd 6 kids and they're all good people, which is quite something.

ginasevern · 18/12/2024 12:26

wishuponamoon21 · 18/12/2024 11:57

Awww I used to have a fab relationship with my MIL and she would call me her second daughter, we spent lots of time just the 2 of us. For 7 years. Then we got married and had a child and she completely changed. What a shame. I am glad some people still have that relationship! I miss it very much.

Are you sure you didn't change somewhat yourself? Women do change when they have babies. I know I got very defensive, territorial and snappy with my own lovely mum in law when my son was a baby. Of course, I didn't realise I was being like it at the time but I look back and regret it now it's too late.

Trainors · 18/12/2024 12:27

I have a lovely MIL and I’m quite sad that I’ll never have a DIL (unless my daughters are gay). Seems like a nice relationship to have.

wishuponamoon21 · 18/12/2024 12:27

ginasevern · 18/12/2024 12:26

Are you sure you didn't change somewhat yourself? Women do change when they have babies. I know I got very defensive, territorial and snappy with my own lovely mum in law when my son was a baby. Of course, I didn't realise I was being like it at the time but I look back and regret it now it's too late.

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It was mainly wedding/marriage that changed her- I'll never understand why. The baby was just the cherry on top for her to be nasty. I've only seen her once since baby has been born. I really did try before that!

Timeforcake9 · 18/12/2024 12:36

Mine changed also after baby was born. Has no interest in any of us now unfortunately. I think it may be due to her son’s priority being his kids but I could be wrong but it’s her loss. I so wish I had a lovely MiL like some of you.

Roselilly36 · 18/12/2024 12:51

I absolutely loved my late MIL to bits, she was the first person I would turn to for advice. She was the best Nanny ever too to my two boys. I miss her, so, so much. I was lucky to have her in my life.

I also absolutely adore my eldest DS girlfriend, she is wonderful, very kind and caring and an all round good person. She has made my DS so happy, they are perfect for each other.

What a lovely thread to give appreciation to MIL’s & DIL’s.

adiffer · 18/12/2024 13:14

I love my MIL, kindest most helpful woman I know and my DC are lucky to call her gran xx

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OldTinHat · 18/12/2024 14:34

These are such lovely posts, but I'm so sorry for those of you whose relationships changed when GC arrived.

I feel so lucky, not only that my DIL is fabulous, but also that her DM is too and that we can chat. Although, I think I have the winning hand with DIL more than her mum with DS! 😁

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