Boyfriend of 2 and a half years.
Recently there have been some white lies and ommissions by bf and I am not sure whether to be worried. I overthink and worry easily. I introduced him to a hobby of mine, reviewing restaurants and being a food critic sort of thing and he is now into this too. A few weeks ago he booked to review a seafood place whilst I was at work. I actually don't really like that food place so wasn't bothered. However, he didn't actually tell me he was doing this. We were texting all through the day and I remember texting him on my lunch break, saying I was having an early lunch etc and he replied saying he was getting some lunch too and asked what I was having. Naturally, to continue the convo I asked the same back. He ignored the question, which I thought was odd but presumed he had misread the message or just left that bit off by accident. I brought it up with him when I saw him the next day and he said he hadn't noticed. So I asked in person 'well what did you have for lunch? Was it something nice and interesting?' He said no and just moved the conversation on. He didn't know I knew he had been so was hiding it from me. He hadn't lied but was purposely ignoring my question about it and was not telling me.
Then the same thing happened this week. He had the day off work and I asked what his plans were. He told me where he was going to do some Christmas shopping etc and to pick up some click and collect stuff. He was going to review a local artisan bakery and a seafood place that day but left this out of the conversation when I asked what his plans were. He then text me when he was in the bakery to tell me he was there as there was a funny conversation he had overheard whilst sat in there he wanted to message me about. If he hadn't have heard this I don't think he would have told me at all. He knew he was planning on going there when I first asked about his plans but didn't tell me. Later on i asked what he was up to and he said not much, nothing exciting. Even though I knew that at this point he would have been at the seafood place in the next town over. It is not close and would be a bit of a drive, so not something that is easily forgettable. I asked if he was just having a quiet night at home and he said he had been to the shop to pick up an extra last minute gift but that was it. Still no mention of the restaurant visit. Again I am not bothered that he has done these things but I am bothered by the lies and the fact he doesn't tell me.
We have had a conversation in the past about what he tells me. I over share and he is very private but we have discussed this before and he knows that I am just interested in his day. I don't want to keep tabs on him or want to know his every move, I don't need a minute by minute break down of his day or when he goes to the toilet etc but he knows its important for me to hear about his day. To me those instances are not little nothings, it's the same as his other mundane life admin and jobs he's told me about like present shopping.
He said last week, he wants to move in together and improve communication and be a partnership. He actions aren't showing me this though. We have talked about the future and it seems like we're on the same page with what he says but I'm not sure.
My worry is that he is trying to get away with this so he can get away with bigger things. How do i know he went to these places on his own? I just have to trust him but that is hard when he is not being honest with me.
I fear I will sound controlling when writing this, but I don't know what there is to gain by not telling me or talking around it and not being totally honest.