DM likes to catastrophise and then offload her worries onto me with the justification that she is giving me knowledge or teaching me something, but really it's for her to feel important and to get it off her chest and pass the worries onto me, with no care for how it will make me feel. She's always done this until I distanced myself from her. Now I have a child myself and we've been trying to improve our relationship, but she's only gone and done it again.
She shared some safeguarding fears about school with me. They are not founded on anything, it is just more catastrophising when actually I know the safeguarding to be very good. Her lengthy message included words like kidnapping, killed, and abuse, and it was super upsetting, especially when I actually have other valid fears about my child's development, friendships, and mental health.
I told her immediately it was distressing and unhelpful and she's promised not to do it again but who knows. I'm still thinking about it at 1am and just needed to vent and maybe get some advice.