No idea what to do now

[Stuckinahole1]

Hi,
I feel like I’m going mad - I’m hoping someone can help with some advice as I honestly don’t know what I’m doing anymore.

I was with my ex fiancé for 9 years - the relationship was abusive and got worse when we broke up , I still lived in our house until I possibly couldn’t anymore. We’ve been apart for 2 years , house is up for sale but he’s still living in it with our pets and his new gf (12 years younger) stays there 80% of the time.

He still emails me inappropriate emails that have nothing to do with the house to taunt me - for example if I go out and he sees me he’ll send a snide email saying my movements (he’s blocked on everything else) and has refused 4 offers on the house because it’s not the ‘right’ price - yet he’s desperate to sell to get away from me.

Ive tried to move on - I’ve been seeing this amazing guy but because this connection with my ex still I can’t get past the anger/grief which is affecting how I see everything. I’m so angry and frustrated- I can’t buy anywhere else because the house mortgage and he’s still got this hold that I can’t escape.

saying that I still miss him and think about him all the time. What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I just move on like he has? Why is she being treated better than I was when I did everything for him?

im just in this hole that I can’t escape

Report him to the police for post separation abuse. Show them all the emails he’s been sending and say he’s stalking you. You can also contact paladin for advice. He sounds like he’s following you about if he knows your whereabouts and emails you siting where you’ve been. You can get a non-mom so he can’t contact you directly anymore. All communication about the sale of the house should go through the lawyer, not you. You do not have to engage with him at all. Find out what you can do to force the sale of the property. Speak to a lawyer about it.

If the house is in joint names you need to see a solicitor to force the sale.

@caringcarer i spoke to a solicitor but they said it’ll be hard to force sale as he’s not technically refusing to sell it. He’s just being very clever with how he words things.

Tell them to start putting the pressure on him to force the sale. It might be hard but you’re instructing them to do a job for you and paying them for it. All communication should go through them. Don’t communicate with him anymore. He’s like a vampire. He thrives on sucking your energy and getting a reaction. So, cut off his supply. Report him to the police for the emails, see if you can get a non mol and stop communicating with him entirely. There’s no reason to do so. Cut him off.