Would date a fussy person?

[KimmeyMakesGoodEggs]

I didn't want to say snob but picture a person that is fussy about absolutely everything
ie:

• wouldn't set food on a chain/high street restaurant but orders from uber eats and deliveroo from places he never ordered before so it is a gamble (the inconsistencies I have observed it might me snob rather than fussy...)

• knows a lot about wines and has a wine collection and says that when someone tastes the wine in a restaurant it is only to make sure it is not corked - not to decide if they want it or not BUT last time we went for dinner he asked to taste a certain wine and made such a 'sing&dance' trying to figure the wine out and questioned the waitress so much (not rude though), she clearly didn't know as much as him, but he was behaving as if we were at a wine bar and he wast talking to his wine mates and then ended up choosing a different bottle (but he had checked the wine menu before hand and said it was not good and the restaurant didn't understand about wine

I'm all for having high standards but also very easy going, if I'm walking around and I'm hungry, I'd rather go to Wagamama then go home and order from a random place

Agree with all of this. Especially your last paragraph.

My ex was a snob.

He wouldn’t step foot in Tesco or Asda, they were full of tramps apparently. He would only shop at Waitrose, Fortnum and Mason and department store food courts. Everything he bought had to be high end or designer brands.

The funniest part is his dad worked at Morrison’s part time after he retired. He was also a massive cheapskate when out with other people.

I couldn't deal with this. A meal out now and then has been a staple of me and DHs relationship right from the start and it wouldn't be the same if it involved all that bloody fuss.

The behaviour described in your second bullet point would be a complete deal breaker for me. What a total bore.

It would grind me down tbh, all this song and dance about a particular wine, a chain restaurant. It’s almost like grandstanding, but it’s pathetic.
When your hungry, you need fuel, and when your really hungry you need to eat now, not procrastination.

That thing about the wine isn't being fussy, it's being a pretentious prat.

A snooty waiter once served us some wine and poured a small amount in a glass for DH to taste. "Ask Slightly" he said, "She knows about wine". You could see the look of increulous disdain on the waiter's face - which was smartly wiped off when I took a sip and immediately deduced that the wine was indeed 'corked'. The one and only time it has ever happened.
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You think the waitress had to deal with a lot of pretentious people and was jaded?

I drink box wine and local takeaway

I don't have time for cuntiness and pomp. Life's too short.

I'm dating someone like this and it does make me cringe at times but he is generous, we have fun and I get to go to restaurants I would never normally get to go to so I just try to embrace it and enjoy the show.
He is the same though - will insist on eating at a Michelin star restaurant and then later will have a kebab from a dodgy kebab place - but wouldn't eat in Cote for example.

If they were fussy in a polite and respectful way then yes.
If they were fussy in a supercilious way then no.

What they said ^^, with knobs on. Or in other words, he's a Knob.

I would probably qualify as a “knob” on the basis of the above description but I will on occasion be found in high street chains or places I wouldn’t want to go to on my own with co-workers, friends etc. A relationship is about compromise so if neither of you can compromise then you are just not suited to each other. If food/wine is a big part of your life though - I will often travel to try new restaurants etc, I think those around you or anyone you are in a relationship with are likely to be of a similar outlook.

No, I think the waiter didn't believe DH when he said I knew about wine.

So yesterday we were eating chocolate with pistachio in it and I said with the shee·ow pronunciation and he corrected me to tue keeo-o pronunciation like the Italians

I just did a quick search and pronouncing the shee·ow is not wrong at all

Thar is the kind of thing I’m talking about

Why… why are you still seeing him?

There's nothing wrong with wanting to check the wine isn't corked of it's a fairly expensive bottle. Let's face it drinking wine in restaurants isn't cheap.
The food thing, well maybe he doesn't like certain chain restaurants. Lots of people hate Nandos and pizza express etc even though they're obviously pretty popular.
My fella is very very fussy about food. I think there's only about ten things he eats. But it doesn't bother me. I eat lots of stuff he doesn't like but that's not a problem.

I would consider it a selling point.

he went beyond checking for corkness

I’m moved now to the uncoupling level

I had an ex who refused to go into a MacDonalds. Not just to eat, but wouldn't even go inside for a coffee. He was CONVINCED that all MacDonalds are full of people who want to rob you (he was a bit of an idiot). We had to go into one in London once when I desperately needed the loo - his face when he realised it was full of people in suits with briefcases (we were in the City) grabbing a coffee before work, was a picture.

It's not inconsistent at all. Chain restaurants don't serve fantastic food, they are cheap and cheerful. In my opinion. I wouldn't particularly choose McDonald's but I might offer a burger from an independent burger restaurant.

I think you are just incompatible with this person. You have different tastes and in the end it will annoy you.

I do love Wagamama though!

It is not about having different tastes or choices of restaurant - the truth is, he looks down on things he considers beneath him

Most people look down on things they consider beneath them. That’s what considering something beneath you entails.

Please just break up with him and be done with it. There’s absolutely no point dating someone who annoys you so much.

I dated someone like this for a short time. I realised as we went along he'd had a pretty poor upbringing with just his mum around. Dad had left them all with virtually nothing so he took on the position and had worked really hard during his life. I think it all affected him; he was quite insecure. Lots of similarities to your date. He really liked to show off with his knowledge of cookery and wine and was constantly belittling what ever I cooked. Towards the end he took me to a very fancy restaurant and announced to the table next to us that I was just having a ham sandwich. He was ok in some ways but had some other issues too so it didn't work out.

@KimmeyMakesGoodEggs yeah, it does sound somewhat ick-worthy. I guess it depends on if his other attributes seem to cancel it out? But if it's indicative of a type of character you're not attracted to then I guess you know what to do.