My partner has sent my friend to pick and wrap my christmas presents

[Mandapanda65]

My partner has gone to my friend and asked her to pick and wrap my christmas gifts, he has just given her the money, i found out off a family member, i feel hurt about this, have i got a right to be hurt or am i being over sensitive?

Why hasn't your friend told him to bugger off and given him a flea in his ear for being an idle sod??

My thoughts exactly Agnes, thank you for your oppinion...

What a lazy git he is. He couldn't even be bothered wrapping them? I can understand him asking her for suggestions but wouldn't be happy with the rest of it. Why would she do that for him? Are they very close?

No not really close at all....

Are you absolutely sure they are not close?

Hmm this is a tricky one. I would actually be quite chuffed if dh made the effort to get in touch with my best friend as he struggles with buying gifts, I would think it was quite thoughtful of him to make sure I got presents I'd definitely like! But then actually sending your friend to buy and wrap the presents rather than just asking for advice or ideas is a bit cheeky... Does your partner tend to be a bit lazy about things or might it be more because he didn't want to get it wrong?

I just think he's too lazy, rather than put any thought into it he would rather give it to someone else to sort out, he will love the grattitude christmas morning though, i think its rather deceitful from both parties if im honest...

I did this once for my BFs DH for her birthday presents. They'd just had a new baby and I worked in a much larger city than where we all lived. It was a one off and I was pleased to help.

I think we need more context to know if it's deceitful from both sides or not.

Your DH 100% being deceitful, lazy, uncaring etc etc - no doubt

Your friend - potentially deceitful if she's doing it to get close to your DH or to try and impress him. However, if he has form of being a deceitful, lazy prick maybe she's doing it for your benefit. If I had a friend married to a guy like this who would be constantly upset and let down by presents and he asked me to do it, I'd consider it. Not to help him or make his life easier, but to treat my friend (using his money), making sure she got something she liked and deserved and to see a smile on her face.
Yes, she might give her DH the credit and not me, but looking at the bigger picture I'd be doing it out of love for her - even if her DH did get credit he didn't deserve. Maybe she's prioritising your feelings and putting the fact she's doing him a favour at the same time to the side?

Your friend probably thinks he’s a lazy useless dickhead @Mandapanda65 and that if she doesn’t do it he’ll get you something really crappy and generic on Christmas Eve. Maybe she’s trying to make sure you have a nice gift to unwrap unless these some massive backstory about her and DP?.

I know that is true about my friend, this is more to do with my partner being thoughtless and uncaring...

That is pretty thoughtless, but maybe he believed your friend would choose nicer gifts than him?

Men can (and I only say "can") be a bit shit with present buying. A guy I lived with once bought me a small wooden sofa with two cats sat in it snuggled together. Because I love cats. I do love cats, but can't abide cat ornamentation etc. To be honest, we argued so much that I kept putting the two cats at opposite ends of the sofa. I binned it when we split up.

Asking for input - perfectly reasonable
Actually buying said item in person - small instances where this might be reasonable
Doing the whole lot - unless he is disabled, or in hospital, no excuse.