My partner his ex girlfriend have recently become friends on Facebook

[boymumtoone]

I need advise. How do I approach this situation.

Me and my partner have been together for almost 7 years. We have a 5 year old son and another baby on the way.

My partner has an ex who were very toxic. When me and my partner were first getting together his ex would message me being nasty and called me names. As far as I was aware my partner had her blocked on social media and it has been like that for the past 7 years.

I have just seen on my partners Facebook they are now friends again on Facebook? And it has come up on his recently added so I know it's within the last couple of days. I'm not sure if she has added him or if he has added her.

So much has gone through my head now. He's never given me a reason to not trust him but why now after 7 years. They are not friends so why be friends on Facebook where she can now see photos of my child. Not sure if there's more to it or if I'm overthinking. Am I wrong to be annoyed?

He doesn't know that I know yet, I haven't mentioned anything as I only found out yesterday. Not sure how to approach the situation.

I’d be very annoyed.

I'll never understand the amount of couples on MN who don't just casually chat to each other about these things.

"Oh Bob, I see you're friends with Barbara on FB, how come?"

Surely that's a question anyone would ask?

I can see why you are worried and upset OP. There seems no "good" reason why they should resume contact again after all this time, and especially given you are pregnant.
You will need to talk to him about this. You need to tell him how you feel. He should be concentrating on you and his children and not rekindling old relationships.

Calmly tell him you’ve noticed, leave a big gap to see what he says and then advise he removes her. It’s not on.

Congrats on your baby.

Completely agree with this post. There is no "good" reason he would want to be in contact with her again. Him even being friends with her suggests the flame never actually went out.

My guess? She's probably been messaging him and the attention is feeding his ego which is why he's added her back.

How dare he - especially considering you're not only the mother of his child but you're carrying his second baby! Some men will never cease to shock me...

I have my x on facebook. Some would say pur relationship was toxic. We rarelynspeak but its bice to see updates on his life and he at times comments on what posts I do so I think he feels the same. Shpuld be said he is in NZ and I in UK so I guess not a lot of chance of much going on (yes emotional affair could but not likely) last time we had direct contact was before covid. However I like seeing he is happy abd settled he was someone i loved once.

Having said that I agree with others just ask your dh. My dh knows i have x on fb and is fine about it

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