So I guess most of you will think im being unreasonable...

[Shhhh]

BUT I have to tell someone before I explode.
I have just had the biggest phone argument with dh...he's in the pub..............

I have had enough and told him over my dead bosy is he coming home, I have also assured him that I will speak to a professional tomorrow about divorce.... I HAVE HAD ENOUGH. .

It started with dh working away from home yesterday,no issues there YET today its his birthday and the first the DK's & I saw of him was at 5pm. Both sets of parents arrived to see him at about 6pm and tbh he was quite rude (poping off upstairs) and insisting that the dk's will be in bed bt 6.30pm...why....SO he can feck off to the pub. His mate collected him at 7pm and I have had no calls and a text at 10.20 saying "I love you but im stopping out".

He has ignored any calls from me and I managed to get hold of him on a mates phone (yeah yeah I know....).

So in a drunk state he tells me he's had enough and that his mate even commented that he's only seen him x2 in 4 months..So what..???
This is the same group of friends dh "calls names" on a daily basis, says they are chavs blah de dah so imo not "friends" iykwim...

Dh went away with the lads abroard x2 last year and has been out with them shed loads more than I ever get out (nights out no big deal to me..)

So all this from a guy who was out till 6am on friday/saturday with the lads..........

I don't mind him going out BUT what I hate is the fact that he becomes someone I don't love and who I no longer know or want to know.. One of his friends is suspected of an affair (quite apparent really) and I don't feel dh's behaviour is what is expected of a 32 yr old man and one that I should put up with for the rest of my days..

I have had it.

Please don't accept his apologies or his fake remorse. My xh used to do this all the time, working on the theory that if he said how bad he was himself, I wouldn't say it - because I'd see how sorry he really was. Clearly he is not sorry if the behaviour is often repeated. Therefore, give him the bollocking of a farking lifetime if you feel so inclined.
These peter pans never change. He'll still be doing this when he's 50 odd, so don't wait for him to outgrow it. Put your foot down.

I reckon you've already made up your own mind that your not happy. I was infuriated when my DP said he'd be home at 8pm and came home at midnight 1 time, and he txtd me all the time and was all loveydovey (he'd just met up with his best mate and they both have babies on the way and had got chatting etc etc). So I can't begin to imagine the anguish you must feel. All his problems aside, you don't deserve to be treated like that or it'll just mess you up in the end.

alcohol is a depressant not when you are on it, but when coming down....