What to do with this information?

[addictedtolove022]

Hi, hope everyone is having a nice day.
I’ve been told some information concerning my ex husband. I already had concerns about his liking for young/teenage girls. I have told the police about this as there is already a case open against him for offences against me.
The Police officer told me she would be flagging the info I’d given her to her Sargent, as it was “red flags” to her.
Now this evening I’ve been told that when he used to work as a taxi driver, a complaint was upheld against him by the council. Allegedly, he was contracted to drive a severely autistic girl to school and on this occasion he has shown her a picture of himself in nothing but a towel.
Do you think this also needs passing on to the police? I’m guessing the council will have it on record somewhere? I feel absolutely disgusted, sick but also this cements what I’ve been questioning for a while. I hope I’m not over reacting to it, but I think it’s absolutely horrific.
Are the police likely to go anywhere with this if I pass it on, given they already had concerns over the other information? Am I over reacting because of who he is/was to me?

Yes, I would report it. The council aren’t the police and these systems don’t link up, so they won’t necessarily know unless a police report was actually made.

Absolutely tell them.

Thank you for your replies. I haven’t slept since I’ve been told about this. It honestly makes me sick to my stomach. The things he’s done to me absolutely pale in comparison to this, in my opinion.
I’ve worked with autistic children and I just can not fathom under what circumstances anyone would think this is acceptable. I think he’s done it to gauge her reaction and see what he could get away with, potentially.

You have to let them know so they can investigate it as it will used to build a case against him and hopefully stop him from going after any after young girls.

This has happened with someone I know. I personally have been made aware of other allegations that I have absolutely 💯 passed onto the police.

Well done for having the courage to report him, OP. Please also give this new information to the police. It all adds to the case for protecting other girls and women from him.

If I report it though, it will be 3rd hand information. Will they take it seriously if this is the case?

Where did you find the information out from?
There's a chance he did more than the photo, that wouldn't have come out of nowhere.

This is horrific for you OP.
Have you got support whilst you are trying to deal with this?

WTF is wrong with these men.

@WandsOut my neighbour told me, she was told by the owner of the taxi company after she commented that me and STBX had split up. I absolutely believe it happened, but I don’t know all the facts.
I agree with what you’ve said about it not being a one off, the photo being shown will be a watered down version of it all. Surely the council will have it on record even if it was over 5 years ago?
I honestly don’t know how to feel, I’m not shocked he’s done it but I’m disgusted and also reeling that he has been able to keep this from everyone for so long.
I do have friends who I’ve disclosed to and hoping to have a quick chat with my counsellor tomorrow.
I knew I should have trusted my feeling about him but unfortunately he had manipulated me that much I was doubting myself constantly.

Actually can’t stop thinking about that poor girl either 😓

I think it probably wasn’t a criminal offence - hence the council didn’t get the police involved at the time. So not sure what they can do….. If they wanted, they could get the council to disclose. I think the only value of this is to show a pattern of behaviour if he were to be taken to court for something else.

Tell the police. You can even report it anonymously on the Crimestoppers website. They will then have the info on record to do with as they wish. The more Intel they have the better they can operate accordingly.

@gokartdillydilly I was going to wait until tomorrow and text the police officer who is in charge of my case? She asked me on Monday if I thought he posed a risk, I said I wasn’t sure. Now I would say 100% yes!!!!

I think giving the police ALL the related information you may have is a good thing, they can follow up the leads and do some digging, and it means that they can connect trails that may be missed otherwise. If we think of how many cases there are in the news of women and children being let down because certain information wasn't available or followed up on, it makes sense to just let them know what you have heard.

It may be third hand from you but they can go directly to the council, and that will be actual proof if they still have records - which I would hope they would otherwise he could pop up again tomorrow driving children for a different firm. They'd need to keep a record to prevent that.

I really hope they do something, as I feel it’s definitely crossing the line.
I'm hoping the council still have record, with it being safeguarding, surely they have to keep these things for a while?
Really struggling with processing it all to be honest.