How to move on from abusive ex

[needtomoveon123]

Hi,

I have recently separated from a partner of 2 1/2 years who increasingly became more and more emotionally and verbally abusive. Despite the horrible times, there were also very good times. I know I need to not be with him, and have made that clear. However I am very much struggling to move on. I miss him. I miss the connection we had (it was very positive when it wasn't horrendous). I miss having someone to talk with, to share my life with. I have written down all the negatives to keep reading over them when I feel weak, but as the days goes on I miss him more and more and I can't stop thinking about him. How do I move on from someone I love (despite knowing all the negative sides of it and him)?

it sounds more like a trauma bond rather than love. I have been there, and have been separated for years but still struggle with these feelings sometimes. It’s not easy but the best thing you can do for yourself and your self esteem is to walk away, take care of yourself and never look back. You are worth more than that.