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Ex still trying to contact GF

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K3ALol · 14/12/2024 19:32

I have been with my partner for just over a year. When we first met and started talking we would always ask about eachothers day and what we would be up to. Early on, she stated that she was going to watch a friend play football, which was about 4 hours away from where she lived. I didn’t think nothing of it, as my feelings at the time were not that deep. Anyway, a couple of months down the line it turned out that it was one of her ex’s that she was friendly with. I, of course was not happy with this as I’m not a huge believer in exes being friends, especially if they have no ties together (E.g children). They would message on Snapchat and as we all know, messages on Snapchat delete themselves, which triggered alarm bells In my head. To her credit, she blocked him after I voiced my concerns and said that she needed to do this (I realise now, I shouldn’t have to do this), however, he has a tendancy of calling her every so often and even after her blocking his number, she will receive calls from other numbers turning out to be him and she says she ignored these calls until a few nights back when she answered thinking it was me on a private number. He has found out about a bereavement in the family & asked if we were still together. When I confronted my partner to why she continued a conversation with him & how did he find out about the bereavement, she said that he has her mum and sister on FB, to which I’ve now found out that he does not have a Facebook account. Now my partner came forward with this info off her own back, however, I’m unsure if she is lying to me and is still in contact with him, but is trying to put me off the scent? Opinions welcome! Thank you for reading

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Zone2NorthLondon · 15/12/2024 00:19

Opinion, you’re hard work. Stop being an insecure dick

Pinkbonbon · 15/12/2024 00:31

You need to drop this.

Tbh it sounds like he might be harassing her, yet - you're making this all about you. How childish!

How about supporting your damn partner!?

Asking her if shes OK with the way he keeps phoning her from unknown numbers would be a good start. And reassuring her you are there to talk if she needs to. And apologising fir being a controlling dick wouldn't harm either.

You've no reason to suspect anything untowards going on from what you've told us (assuming there's nothing you've left out that changes this such as a history of her cheating).

You trust her or you don't. Stop making your insecurities her problem.

And if you can't, leave and stay single.

vodkaredbullgirl · 15/12/2024 01:31

1st post nailed it.

Nerdlings · 15/12/2024 01:35

So she has one man harassing her and another man blaming her for it.

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