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People who were ghosted. Talk to me

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Itwentwrongagain4 · 14/12/2024 08:46

I need to be honest and say how I feel without people telling me its my own fault etc. I needed to get back out there. I know its fairly close to my last relationship ending. But I've been attempting to leave for a long time and I struggled due to the dynamics.

I know someone called D. I've known him in a very distanced way from primary school. I remember him more than me. I went trick or treating with his cousins and played around his aunties. We have lots of little links to one another.

I ended up working with D last year. Same building. Different jobs. We've always been able to talk. Got on well. We knew we liked eachother but nothing happened as he had a partner. They have very recently split up. So we've chatted abit. We got closer. We went out for a drink 3 weeks ago. We slept together after. The connection seemed positive the next day so a few days later we met up again. All was good. Then we slept together and spent a few hours together. Everything was positive. Said goodnight and arranged to meet up today.

He's stopped speaking to me. Heard absolutely nothing now since Tuesday. I messaged him last night and said I was hurt and didn't think he was like this. I Said I would appreciate an explanation so things are not uncomfortable in general. I see his mum auntie and grandma approx twice a month and I feel sad I'm not worthy of an explanation.

He didn't reply.

I'm well aware there's no point messaging anymore. But why is this the normal now? I'm not even from a dating site. I'm an actual person he knows.

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Itwentwrongagain4 · 14/12/2024 15:44

Yeah I think he's used me to forget about his marriage problems and then he's slept with me a couple of times and realised he didn't know how to carry on spending time with me before stuffs dealt with. But also I guess he may have realised he didn't actually feel a connection. Weird because he got home and instantly said we needed a movie and snack night this weekend. Said he couldn't wait to see me again. So it's really been one extreme to the other.

I get a strange feeling if I hear from him again itl be after Christmas. I almost wonder if it's family pressures.

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