Someone from bumble contacted me on facebook -how?

[DrinkingTooMuchPinot]

Good evening,
As the title says I have just been contacted on Facebook by someone who had seen my profile on bumble and obviously I didn't swipe right for them.
How on earth did they find me? I have not linked my Facebook on bumble, my Facebook account is set to private, I didn't even use my real name (the spelling of my name is slightly unusual and I used the more common way to spell it on bumble). They are commenting on my profile picture and are from the same city.

I've only used bumble for a week so a bit concerned now that someone was able to find and message me.

Did you use the same profile photo?
Maybe a reverse search?

So creepy of them though.

Do you have any friends in common? Maybe they already know you/are friend of a friend or sth

No didn't use the same photo, and no friends in common. Finding it rather creepy, and worrying. I used a different spelling of my name because otherwise it's easy to find me and where I work as my employer has my picture on their website.

That is creepy.
Can you block them on fb? And also I'd Change your privacy settings, I post anything personal on friends only, never public.

Yes have blocked them but just worried how he was able to find me.. I'm not big on social media and only have around 100 friends on Facebook, all of whom I know in person, and even less on insta. All my posts are private, and I never post anything on Facebook anyway, only there for some groups.

The most likely explanation if they live in your area is surely that they know you somehow in real life so knew your name? Through work, relative etc. Have you had a good stalk of their fb profile?

I really can't think of any connection and have blocked him now. He's different ethnicity, not that it matters but i don't know anyone local from the his ethnic group. Not sure where he lives but he said he works in a local hospital. I'm really worried now and wondering whether to delete my bumble account because of this.

Did he actually find you on Bumble? Or is he just a scammer/chancer who sent this message to 100 women and you happen to the one who is actually on Bumble?

Maybe he looked at your profile on bumble with a mutual friend who told him your name of Facebook or showed it to someone who knows you

Perhaps he or one of his friends recognised your picture and did the 'I know her, she works at xxxx' and they Googled your work place and found you through that?

Do you have your job or other similar identifying information on there? I think with that it's surprisingly easy to google, say, 'Lydia + solicitor + Nottingham' or whatever and be able to narrow down a surname. Even an unusual hobby or something could be identifying. I used to always google any men from dating apps I was considering meeting and more often than not was able to find their social media.

As pp said they've probably googled your name, job and area, and you could come up in your job website or LinkedIn first then tracked you down on fb, very creepy. You would think no match not interested.

Do people put their job on Bumble? I've not used it so don't know but that sounds risky for a dating site

@DreamW3aver yes you can do, people often write what field there're in, there's an option to write in the company name to be more specific, places they've studied to their hobbies etc, you have to put something interesting on the profile, not that op has, but it's a way people can use to find information however little, can be a lead to a creepy stalker.

I only put down 'senior professional', not the field of work or anything, so quite creeped out that he found me..he's also commenting on my name, and how I used a different name on my profile (the more common way to spell it) and the outfit I am wearing on my main profile photo.

Is bumble linked on Facebook or anything, and could they be selling on the user information? Just really freaked out as have been deliberately vague and didn't think anyone could find me.

Can you see how this is quite possibly a plain old fashioned someone who knows you and him joining the dots rather than any nefarious link ?

Why didn't you message back with faux coyness and ask, ' How did you find me on here?

I think it’s someone who knows you and is using a fake profile / picture to freak you out - an ex maybe?

Creepy when a man does it but basic due diligence for a woman when making online contact?

Commenting on the picture is taking it too far but nothing wrong with looking someone up

They may have google lens your picture and it came up with a search result of your picture of your Facebook profile or perhaps your company website one with the correct spelling of your name and then they've searched for you that way? A lot of effort. What a creep.

Agree. I would message someone but anyone I’m chatting to with a possibility of a date, I do as much research as I can on them upfront.

Sending a message is a step too far though. I had it from someone on FB dating who looked me up on a mutual friend’s page and messaged me asking why I’d unmatched - we hadn’t even chatted!

yes it is creepy because the OP didn’t choose to match with him on Bumble. He didn’t need to carry out any due diligence because they weren’t going on a date. That should have been the end of it. If she’d matched with him then agreed to a date then yes maybe look her up. But it’s stalkerish if someone has rejected you and you find them on FB and start commenting on their pictures.

OP do you use first name and surname on Bumble? If so it would be pretty easy to find you on FB even with a different spelling especially if he knew the town you lived in too. I would contact Bumble, it’s wildly inappropriate and he may have a pattern of similar behaviour. I would also tighten up security settings too. I don’t know how online dating works but you should be able to be anonymous enough that someone can’t find you on other sites.