I can feel the ick is on its way

[NoEscapingMe]

Been together a couple of years and live together. He's a sulker which has become less as I just tell him straight to grow up. He's mid 50s.
I'm approaching 50. Went out to watch football last night as he wanted. He prepped veggies etc as was his turn to cook. Lad in the bar explained there was a quiz after the football to which OH agreed we would stay for, fine. We were home by 9.30. On arriving home he announced he CBA cooking now and put a film on with the volume at full pelt thus blanking me out. Sulking because either we lost? I'm too loud and it became a laugh that he doesn't get into? Or whatever meh. Either way it felt like a punishment. I went to the shop and bought myself a protein shake and a shitty premade sandwich which he said was disgusting (sorry co-op lol.) Anyhow, I'm starving now awake and bloody fuming while he snores. I'm getting the biggest ick. He's self-centered beyond belief in most areas of our relationship yet (and this is not to sound like a dick) he's punching above his weight (I never saw it but blinkers are coming away rapidly.) I'm done here aren't I? Will only get worse?

Nothing so unattractive as a grown man being the incredible sulk🙄

Sulking is the WORST (in an otherwise relatively normal relationship- for sure there are other terrible things). He sounds like an arse and you should cut your losses.

That said I am on this thread because I’m also approaching the ick and I wonder if it’s possible to prevent it happening before it does. Like, is it worth it? Are there other things in the relationship which balance out the sulks?

Dickish behaviour is dickish behaviour not the ick.
Getting the ick is when they talk baby talk or snort phlegm or say oops a daisy!
This one sounds like a right asshole.

Get rid OP. A sulking man will bring you little joy in your life.

ya cant fix fuckt--turn to you tube-domf domf doomf -another one bites the dust.
in all seriousness-we should be allowed to brand them-the only reason to suggest holding onto him is to save another poor woman having to suffer it.maybe ai will allow star hovering holgoram star rating.yes.it is spelt lke that

tolerable 😂

Eh?

So when it’s his turn to cook dinner he doesn’t as he can’t be bothered
have you go somewhere else to go?

or.are you still grown adult capable of see to self-?grab a sandwhich n leave his huffy ass.here for a good time,not a longtime...

He does cook tbf. It was more that we were out longer than planned. I'm more extroverted and I enjoyed it more than him I think so he was miffed and so couldn't face cooking. What's annoying me is that he put a film on full volume so no communication could be had. I'd have happily ordered us a take away or gone and grabbed a lasagna or whatever from the shop as I ended up just going and sorting a quick bite for myself. Made me feel like a visitor and an unwanted one at that in my own home. I can be bothered dissecting the reasons why. I'm too old for games. I'll tell him when he wakes I'm not one but impressed

He's pathetic.
Leave

You’re allowed to end it any time for any reason. It’s just the practicalities now. Whose house? Finances. Stuff.
Life can be easier as a mutually supportive couple but I think most 50+ women on this site have already decided not to go looking for a new man as the support is often too much all one way.

Whose house is it? If it's his, get ready to leave. If it's yours tell him he has a week to find somewhere to go to. Honestly, I just could not be bothered with someone like this.

What you described sounds more like a bad night - brain switch off after a few beers too many. Not great but worse happens….
I’d think if this is a one off it’s not a biggie, but is it that, or the tip of an iceberg?

@NoEscapingMe if he’s ‘self centred beyond belief’ most of the time, that’s grounds for telling him to sling his hook. Turned up the tv to drown you out in your own home??! The cheek! He’s not a keeper.

What a disgusting man-child he is.

This behaviour you've described OP - I'd have the ick so badly I think I'd be puking for an hour straight.

I certainly wouldn't be able to have sex with him again, not after this pathetic carry-on.

You absolutely know what to do. I wish you all the best for the peaceful future that awaits 🌻

Whose home is it? If it’s yours then just tell him it’s not working for you and he needs to find somewhere else to live.

I’m 50+ and honestly I don’t know any single women my age who have the slightest desire to live with a man again.

It just doesn't sound like a partnership. I doubt I would have felt like starting to cook at 9.30 either but you could have had a grown up conversation about it and decided to keep the veggies until tomorrow and bought something quick to have instead

He is a sulky ole sourpuss. Dump.

This all sounds miserable, but I also wouldn't be expecting anyone to cook dinner after 9.30pm?! Did you not think to order dinner at the pub? It seems weird that you seem not to have discussed this sensibly, and it doesn't sound like you really like each other at all... You don't actually have to keep seeing each other.

Yes. Absolutely.

“MixieMatchie · Today 12:49

This all sounds miserable, but I also wouldn't be expecting anyone to cook dinner after 9.30pm?! Did you not think to order dinner at the pub? It seems weird that you seem not to have discussed this sensibly, and it doesn't sound like you really like each other at all... You don't actually have to keep seeing each other.”

This with bells on.

I wouldn't have cooked a meal at 9.30 either.

As an asides I cannot abide a sulker.

You say been together a couple of years, if you mean 2 years that's too soon. How long had you been together when you moved in. wouldn't life be easier if you dated him, go on dates once or twice a week and the rest of the time enjoy your own space.