I don’t even know where to start with you this as I could write a book. Been married 10 years and have two children (with my ex husband, not husband). He has a lot of MH issues going back to his childhood which he has had, and continues to have, counselling for. Any arguments over the years have resulted in him ignoring me for days until I initiate sorting the situation out. He says this is caused by his childhood.
Countless problems over the year, far too many to list. 2 years ago my daughter attempted suicide. I rang her Dad and my husband didn’t talk to me for 5 weeks because of this. He said I should have discussed it with him first rather than ‘running’ to her Dad. Throughout all of this I asked him not to discuss it with anyone as my daughter didn’t want anyone to know. I reiterated this to him many times and the importance of it. I found out that he’d been telling his friend all along and also my parents which I had specifically asked him not to as my daughter didn’t want her grandparents to know. Anyway, long story short, we sorted things out after that but they have never quite been the same.
He is very moody and I feel on edge whenever he is in the house, which is a lot as he works from home. Whenever he is out of the house, I feel like a weight has been lifted. He was in a bad mood last week and I repeatedly asked why, eventually he told me it was because we are like ships that pass in the night. He went out 3 nights like last week, I had only been to work. But we had a talk about it, I said we needed to make more of an effort to out something in our diaries so that definitely spent time together, going for a meal etc. Fast forward to yesterday. I was at work, he texted asking what I’d like for dinner. I said pasta and that I would do when I got in. Got in and he’d made it and I said ‘oh I to thought was making it’ and then he’s in a mood. P*sed off that my immediate reaction wasn’t to be grateful that he’d made dinner, he was cross. I said I was grateful but just thought I was making it. That was it. Barely spoke to me since. This is one of hundreds of examples.
I am at the end of my tether and don’t know how much more I can take. The moods are about anything and everything. We’ve had sex twice this year and I find myself not being attracted to him and doubting if I even like him. We’ve had counselling 3 times over the years and things improve for a few weeks and then back to square one. I just don’t know what to make of it.
posted this on netmums too as I’m from the UK but not sure anyone really posts on there.