making contact with ex

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I need some ideas on how to contact my ex but feel he may have blocked me?..i’m not certain but don’t really want to text if he has.. would you send a text and make it sound like an accident? ideas on how to make it sound accidental or any other ideas?

I think 'accidental' texts always look really, really obvious and people see right through them. Is there a specific reason why you need to contact him? Can't you just be open and honest about it?

I would but I don’t really want to embarrass myself so would prefer to make it look accidental, I don’t think it’s always obvious

Because I would like to give things another go

I wouldn’t know if he is single as we haven’t spoken since the summer but he doesn’t seem to care if I’m single when he reaches out

The fact that this sounds like a recurring theme makes me say absolutely do not reach out. Then the fact that you also suspect he has blocked you makes me think toxic.

Been there, bought that t-shirt and donated that t-shirt to some other sorry sod who will no doubt be treated the same.

Just text him, it could work out.

I wouldn’t say toxic.. he imitated it in the summer but I said no, however I’ve since changed my mind but on WhatsApp I’ve noticed his pic has disappeared, we didn’t speak on there though, only through text so I’m not sure may have just deleted my number. We haven’t spoken since the summer.

can I ask why you want your ex back? It's rarely a good idea

Exes are usually exes for a reason.

Pretending it was by accident, when you don't regularly text, is dumb and makes you look 12

If you want to talk to them, just text and say hey, you crossed my mind the other day, I hope all is well and do it like a grown up

I don’t think, well I know there isn’t anyone else out there for me..

Yes that’s a good point, I guess I just don’t want to embarrass myself if there is no response

No one in the whole world? Millions/billions of people?

Anyway...you've said to pp below me you don't want to embarrass yourself by sending a direct, non-accidental message and not getting a response. If you're sure this is the man for you, then be direct. If there is no response then you know where you stand and you can move on.

Agreed with this. If you really want to go down this route then this is the way to do it.

However, I’ve been where you’ve been, amazingly chemistry with a man who’s basically emotionally unavailable and texting them to beg for another chance.

Well I’m over them now and though I’m not with anyone at present I know there are other people out there.

Send a simple message to him along the lines ‘Hello Dave. I heard / saw x thing today and it reminded me of when we did y together. I hope all is well with you. I’d love to catch up some time if you are up for that?’

If he’s blocked you well you’ll never get an answer and that is an answer in itself. If he replies you can take it from there.

‘Mistake’ texts are always obvious and make people think you haven’t changed / grown up.

Good luck

A reasonable grown up message that gets ignored - mildly embarrassing, quickly moved on from
Acting like a silly moo and getting ignored - way more self esteem bashing, it becomes the thing you ruminate on, and will be way harder to get past if you do cross paths with them in the future

You can decide if you want to risk reaching out, it is not an unreasonable idea, but do it with the least risk, buly acting mature about it

if you do the "accident" text, and he doesn't respond, will it not just make you think "is he ignoring because he thinks it's an accident?"

just text a normal text.

if he ignores, or has you blocked, it might sting a bit initially, but tells you a lot.
i think it would allow you some reassurance that he's definitely not the one for you.

and of course he's not the only possibility for you.

Never go back, always look forward.
There will always be someone nicer in the future.

Thanks all honesty it is!

Sadly there won’t be, I’ve been single since we split. I doubt I will meet anyone else.

Talk to him in person, otherwise you will be agonising over any text - you cannot decipher tone or attitude in a text!