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Husband doesn't believe that his sister is horrible to me

7 replies

SILproblems123 · 10/12/2024 18:31

I'm really upset with my husband because he doesn't believe me when I say his sister is toxic. He even asked me if I think I have postnatal anxiety - we had a baby 6 months ago.

I have recently stood up to my sil about her behaviour - manipulative, rude, toxic. She smirks at me and gives me dirty looks whilst no one can see. At family gatherings she gives mil looks if I say something she disagrees with etc Comments and snide remarks etc. Hates when I have conversation with mil, always listening in when we talk, doesn't want me to have relationship with mil. Controlling, thinks she knows everything best. Downright unpleasant to be around.

Once I called her behaviour out she said that it's untrue and started gaslighting and said she couldn't be happier that her brother is with me. I'm sure her and mil talk behind my back.
I am so tired of thinking about this... But I won't give in.

This has affected our marriage a lot. We will speak to a therapist but I just don't know what to do and I am so upset he doesn't believe me.

OP posts:
Wolfiefan · 10/12/2024 18:33

Smirking and dirty looks? What has she actually said? How often do you have to see her?

VimesandhisCardboardBoots · 10/12/2024 18:54

What exactly has she done, because pretty much everything you've said above can be open to interpretation.

MorrisZapp · 10/12/2024 18:55

Dirty looks aren't much to go on.

Dolphinnoises · 10/12/2024 18:56

Well yes, that’s standard unpleasant in-law behaviour. All you can do is stop feeding it and try not to care. What’s more serious is that your husband doesn’t believe your version of events

Pinkbonbon · 10/12/2024 19:28

I think you aught to 'give in'. And by that I mean, stop giving it so much headspace. Who cares if she's a bitch. You don't have to see her you know. You're married to him not his sister.
Just avoid his family.

It's likely your hormones are still settling after the baby amd you're overthinking.

Girliefriendlikespuppies · 10/12/2024 19:30

A lot of this sounds like it could be projection or paranoia tbh, unless there is a big backstory.

Dirty looks could just be her face 🤷‍♀️

And why does it matter?

Just ignore her if you don't t like her.

ThePerkyDuck · 10/12/2024 20:05

Just grey rock her, also as above post mentioned, you don’t have to see her, avoid the gatherings if you are feeling uncomfortable.

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