Should I report this?

[Sensecheck23]

These are garbled notes from my phone just after it happened, I hope the general gist is clear. Is this worth reporting to the police?

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‘DP’ ranting and aggressive raised voice at me for 15 minutes. Name calling: fat cunt, piece of shit, pathetic, waste of space, don’t care about my children.

Because I didn’t say thank you for collecting my 2 children (not his) from school yesterday so I could take our shared child to the GP.

I told him to stop speaking to me like that and I wouldn’t put up with it anymore. I asked him to leave and told him we were done.

He then got right in to my face and was talking/hissing at me very threateningly. I took my phone out to call 999 as he was frightening me.

He then grabbed my phone to stop me and pushed me to the floor at the same time. I held on to my phone for a bit, which caused a cut finger and a bruised leg (the hand holding the phone was between my leg). He wrestled the phone out of my hand and left me on the floor.

Went downstairs after I told him to leave but didn’t leave the house. Only left after I threatened to call the police again. He was already minimising saying he grabbed my phone and I fell.

Well he clearly attacked and threatened you. What do you want to happen is what you must ask your self. Do you trust him with the child you have together?

I would.

He assaulted you.

Report to the police and take steps to get court order in place to keep him away from you and the children.

In time, a child arrangement order for contact etc.

For now, yours and the kids safety is paramount. Don't wait.

Yes please report this to the police. Change your locks. Take any other steps to make yourself and your children safe.

My concern is it will be he said/she said and it will make him worse.

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Yes, as said by previous posters. Don’t sit about watching the thread.

There will be a next time, and it is only going to get worse anyway. He's not going to stop abusing you of his own accord. He assaulted you. Next time he could assault your dc. You need to protect them (and yourself) from his violence.

Please do find the strength to call the police, or at least talk to a trusted friend or other person you can confide in.

Yes, I would absolutely report this to the police. He has assaulted you and it will not be the last time. If you do nothing then the chances are he will see you as accepting the behaviour and him having free reign to do it again with no consequences. Get yourself and the kids away from him. Violent men only ever escalate - after minimising, victim blaming and lots of tears & promises.

Absolutely report it. That will be evidence to support you when you stop him having unsupervised access to your child. You'll come to regret it if you don't.

Report it and then LTB. Even without the physical part, the bullying, aggressive name calling is not something which you should put up with.