Do nothing? Do something?

[itgotweird]

I went on a few dates with the same guy a few weeks ago

I came to no harm on those dates but I just sensed we weren't really compatible after initially things had been seemingly good, similar interests but it was just feeling too fast and unreal ... I mean who says I love you just after a few dates. Something was bugging me that he seemed possessive possibly

He shared me his ID, sent his passport, birth certificate, work pass, kept sharing live location- none of this was asked for and I actually didn't share back bc it was a few dates, all this I suppose was just odd being sent it without requesting it but ok

Then he told me about how his daughter initially he wasn't on the birth certificate and he had spent 6 weeks in jail on investigation but supposedly she is crazy (seriously he took zero responsibility whatsoever) but a DNA peace of mind was done and supposedly she now will go to jail for lying if she says anything more and social services allow him contact etc

Then he sent it - ex's name, child's name on everything- we weren't in a relationship we'd met a few times

Sent me solicitors letter about his charges being dropped that show he had an RO in order to be investigated for breaching it 🤦‍♀️

I explained he hasn't just shown red flags but the whole circus so thanks but no thanks and if his ex is so crazy and supposedly wants him back really wasn't something I was interested in being involved with

Like he went from seeming ok... to ???? Wtf

He made a joke about his daughter that gave me chills... incredibly not father like

For whatever dumb reason somehow I didn't block him and allowed him to explain himself... but it still didn't really make sense

Anyway I woke up to 90 messages after being incredibly clear- I'm not checking various laws because I don't actually want to date you, it's weird as heck like he's arguing with me but kinda in his head to himself because I'm not responding (I'm asleep) and he sorta appears to threaten to rape me .., like it's such a ramble and goes off on tangents that it's not really clear, he starts waffling about king Solomon at one point

And he has stopped since 3 texts beyond mine telling him it is harassment and I don't want further communication today

I'm just so weirded out and wondering if the "crazy ex" perhaps... is not so crazy at all (which when someone claims they are to the extent he did I mean and supposedly he was perfect but gets arrested 🙄)

Is the right thing to do... carry on with me, forget? Or ummm anything else here?

The threat isn't entirely clear tbh - honestly think for whatever daft reason he expected me to be persuaded into having sex with him... there's other weird ramblings about how aids isn't real amongst it

What drug would make him so weird at 5am on the way to work? He's gotta be off his face right?

I'm safe, he doesn't have my details- I have his, that's the weirdest thing

Goodness I'd just block and forget it, possibly report on the dating app? they may take him off and spare someone else his craziness. I think in future don't feel bad at cutting them off sooner, if they start being weird, for for your own safety, luckily you were ok this time.

Yeah I looked and he's unmatched so I can't report I don't think 🤔 I might check but think that option might be gone

I hoped it would be to forget

Can't help worrying about what position this "crazy ex" might be in, and wondering what substances he's on but reporting anything does feel a bit like... why the fuck didn't I just block before then I wouldn't be so weirded out

I hope she's got support

The RO is still active

But he speaks about being in contact with her anyway

Dear me, when the best you can say about a man is 'I came to no harm' then you need to block and delete - and if he contacts you one more time contact the Police because he has all the signs of being a stalker.

He may not be on drugs, he may just be having a psychotic break with reality. Either way, this is not something for you to get involved in. I bet his ex will be getting lots of help from the Police, social services, victim support etc, because he's been to prison

I hope so

Obviously I have heard his version

Where she's going to jail if she says anything and charges being dropped prove he's a liar and it was all over paternity they had this bust up

Maybe I'm naive but I find it strange social services would tell a woman to make her child have contact with an active restraining order existing

And I've seen the unhinged side of him (over text) now to think 🤔 yeah that's exactly why someone didn't name you on the birth certificate

Anyway

I think I feel reassured to do nothing, just gotta move on with me

She’s* not he's a liar I mean

@itgotweird I'd definitely be blocking and deleting and hope he doesn't find another way to contact you. If you can find a way to let the dating app know about him that would be good because can you imagine the next poor woman who matches with him😬 it's amazing how many men have a "crazy ex" isn't it? 🤨

I have all his details and the address is correct because I dropped him home to it

But there's no sign whatsoever of him on social media anywhere and his name is unusual enough it would be easy to find and I don't think he even knows my last name

I think forgetting is the right call, it's just so weird... bombarding me with his info, no trace of him online to block anywhere

Even the photos he sent me over WhatsApp when things were seemingly ok... they were old.. to the date he went to jail. They weren't asked for, like it was like being dropped an entire camera roll randomly, Yet I've seen solicitor letter saying dropped not convicted

I personally wouldn't be able to send photos that backdated that far if I wanted to nor do I have any idea why you'd send not in a relationship or discussion so many at once

It's gonna bug me but probably better not finding out whatever whoever he is 🙈😅

Fuck me, writing it down it's weirder than I realised actually.., I'll be trigger happy with the block button in future!

Block. Block. Block. He's unhinged. Whatever, is going on, you certainly want no part of it. Hopefully he doesn't know any personal information about you? Address? Place of work? Surname etc?

I'd be tempted to report it to the police and show them all the messages.
Might help his poor ex if the police know he's been harassing other women

No I'm fairly sure I'm safe, I'm changing the only thing I think he could recognise and remember in a few days anyway, we're local ish to each other but not enough I'm afraid we'll meet again easily for him thank goodness 😅

And I think by him going silent since I sent the clearest possible threat to report him for harassment if he contacted me again after reading the ramblings this morning, hopefully 🤞 he's accepted leaving me be now ... he's the one who unmatched first on the app, I've now managed to block him from contacts

Honestly don't think I'm at any risk myself, just weirded out and feeling very sorry for the 'crazy ex' in the story- it's just a lucky escape for me and lesson in blocking when it's weird rather than sticking around to hear the explanation for me!

Block a whole lot quicker next time.

Honestly, I don't disagree 🙈 lesson definitely learned!