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Is life getting more difficult?

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OffTheScales · 09/12/2024 17:38

Honestly is it?
I have just entered my 50s and my friend's relationships are all crumbling.
Our long term neighbours are moving to opposite end of country..
Our best friends are moving abroad.
3 sets of our 50 year old friends are splitting up.
This is worse than being in the tumultuous teens.
Is this similar for you in your 50s?
I wish they would all just settle down and be happy but they seem determined to get some new excitement.
Our childhood and everyday life is mad enough so looking for stability?
Is it just me? 🤨

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unsync · 09/12/2024 18:00

I think you get some big life events in your 50s. Kids leave home and parents die, these things make you evaluate where you are in life and whether you can keep doing it until you, in turn, die. I think for many, the answer is they can't, it's a now or never thing. In your 50s you've got enough time to rebuild your life before retirement.

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OffTheScales · 09/12/2024 20:28

unsync · 09/12/2024 18:00

I think you get some big life events in your 50s. Kids leave home and parents die, these things make you evaluate where you are in life and whether you can keep doing it until you, in turn, die. I think for many, the answer is they can't, it's a now or never thing. In your 50s you've got enough time to rebuild your life before retirement.

Oh yes that makes perfect sense! It's certainly a big life change! 😊🙏

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Sorteed · 09/12/2024 21:02

unsync · 09/12/2024 18:00

I think you get some big life events in your 50s. Kids leave home and parents die, these things make you evaluate where you are in life and whether you can keep doing it until you, in turn, die. I think for many, the answer is they can't, it's a now or never thing. In your 50s you've got enough time to rebuild your life before retirement.

Usually turns into the same old shit if you for people chasing the heady feelings of a new relationship though. Best splitting and staying single. That will lead to greater happiness.

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OffTheScales · 09/12/2024 22:10

That's what my Mum did although she could do with more money so her lifestyle changed in a lot of ways. She says it's swings and roundabouts on the benefits of being single v coupled but only lived on my own for 18 months before I met my husband so wouldn't know!

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unsync · 09/12/2024 22:19

@Sorteed Quite, I don't know why anyone would choose to have another relationship. You are supposed to learn from your mistakes and gain wisdom as you age! Plus I've found that there's very little I will compromise on now. Happy 50-something singleton here.

stripeyshutters · 09/12/2024 22:29

To get some new excitement? Those are rather harsh words. If someone's marriage breaks up why should they not meet someone new if they want to? It's difficult being on your own and older. I remarried and am now having a great time travelling and doing the things I and he like. I think many relationships just run their course. Turn the page - there's always another chapter if you want to.

TwistedWonder · 09/12/2024 22:36

I’ve got a better social life in my 50’s than I’ve had in decades.

So many single friends my age who have no interest in another relationship and instead we are enjoying night out, weekends away, holidays etc. There is absolutely nothing I miss about having a partner now. I can’t imagine ever having another relationship now but if by any chance I did meet someone great, there is no chance at all I’d ever cohabitate again. I love my own space and peace far too much - I can’t imagine anything worse than getting home from work and having to talk to someone 🤣

ByHardyAquaFox · 09/12/2024 22:38

Getting old sucks, but that is life.

TunipTheVegimal24 · 09/12/2024 22:59

I think life generally is quite hard atm (mid 30s here). More pressures, often mean more relationship breakdowns, unfortunately. At least your friends can afford to split up if they are unhappy, presumably without either of them becoming homeless? Still not nice to be around though OP, especially this time of year. I hope you get some cheerier news soon x

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