Bored

[Boredboring]

Do other single parents feel bored a lot or is it just me? I did speak to some single parents and they seemed offended at the term bored because "there's always something to do" and they've never experienced boredom as there's always so busy cleaning and taking care of kids 🙄 so they don't have "time to be bored" but forgive me for not finding those things enjoyable especially day in day out, all day every day. I've completely lost who I am. Nothing to look forward to just the same mundane things over and over. I can't even remember what its like to not be extremely tired. Weekends revolved around the kids and when they do roll around I've barely got any energy or money to do anything with them anyway. I feel invisible and like my life is on hold till they grow up. Just can't ever remember a time in my life where I've ever been this bored. I guess it doesnt help that I had quite an active social life before kids. How do other single people cope with being single and not doing anything? (Other than the mundane)

Hey thanks but wondering if anyone feels the same as me

I do when I do nothing. Staring at screens is the worst thing for this. Before you know it, it's dark by the time you realise what a boring day you've had. I hate it.

You, and your dc, need activity and mental stimulation otherwise you'll have a lot of days when you're bored. You don't need lots of money either.

We went out yesterday. We was out for 6 hours but it was cold and freezing and I didn't enjoy it but did it for my son. They are older now so dont want to do free stuff like parks and museums anymore.

Are they old enough to be left alone sometimes so you can do something?

Are you tired?
That's the other time I feel bored - when I want to do something but don't have energy
Take some vitamin d

No unfortunately not quite that old. Just past the age of enjoying parks (well the older ones find them boring anyway and so do i. Not really my idea of fun sitting alone in a cold park whilst the kids play).and really quite dull!

I work from home. I don't enjoy my job though either so not sure why that would make a difference I'm obviously not making myself clear I miss having a social life and doing things for myself that don't involve taking care of kids or working. Life is very dull and repetitive.

I'm not a single parent but have found life more mundane and borung since having children so your not alone and I think it is quite common. I must admit I find it easier the older they get. Baby days are the worst for me

Forget I posted. Its obviously not clear what I'm saying.

Are you missing adult company?

I hear you OP. Life can get very boring. What do you enjoy? Is there any way you can squeeze something you love into your life?

I hear you OP. Life can get very boring. What do you enjoy? Is there any way you can squeeze something you love into your life?

I sometimes find weekends with 2 and 4 year old very boring but try to meet up with friends with similar aged children as much as possible. Also get them out to places I don’t mind going to. I’ve recently acquired a fwb which has improved life massively. And I always listen to a podcast or audiobook while I clean etc.

I hear you op

I am a lone parent of six year old twins. I adore them and love spending time with them, but yes, the relentlessness of it gets to me and I do get bored of everything always being centred around my children. It's like you as a person disappear. I sometimes feel like I'm sitting in a cage watching people with partners and more support live lives i can only dream about.

I don't think people who aren't single parents will ever get it. They'll say "GO out with friends etc" but don't realise they the sheer pain in the arse of sorting child care etc often makes it not worth it.

You are not alone.

@Circe7 Where do you find the time for a fwb? Serious question.

I'm with you @Boredboring
I agree there's "always something to do" but just cos you have chores & housework to do doesn't mean it's not fucking boring!!

There's a difference between complaining you've got nothing to do and complaining about being bored.

And for those saying to go out and do more. They're both dependant on free time and money!

Don't get me wrong I absolutely love my kids to death and love being around them. But day today life can be mundane and boring when you're on your own

It’s only something I’ve started quite recently and I don’t really have time but was going crazy without it. It’s a few hours every 1/2 weeks - sometimes they go to their dad’s for that time but he’s very unreliable so sometimes it’s a babysitter. Obviously I’m fortunate that those are options- they weren’t always. But it massively improves my mood the rest of the time. I certainly wouldn’t have time for a proper relationship.

I’d prefer cut into sleep and have some time to myself than spend every waking minute with the children but it’s not an easy balance.