I can do this anymore

[Secondtimemum24]

I need some advise ….
Basically have a baby 6 months old and me and his dad have had a relationship that has been constant bickering … I’ve had enough my mental health is not good I feel like he’s a trigger - he’s been staying with me telling me he’s going to get a place and hasn’t - I live with my older children I can’t have him live with me because I can’t trust him financially (I know people will say I shouldn’t have had a baby with him or let him stay with me in ever really) we’ve had a horrible argument today that started stupidly and he’s said he wants baby 50/50 he’s only got up for a night feed twice in his life so I’m saying it’s not in his best interest to stay over night and this is something we need to discuss not now I’ve asked him to leave he has no where to go so I do feel bad but I can’t have him here anymore - he said I have no idea how horrible he can be because we met online a few years ago.
He said don’t play my baby against me I’ll have him 4 days on 4 days off which it’s just not right ! Because I deserve to have the same amount of time with him that he does and I’m breaking up this family by telling him to leave….
I’ve said not nice things obviously we all do in an argument.
we have had good days recently on and off but they’re only “good” and it’s because we haven’t bickered
He doesn’t contribute financially to my house.
I dunno where his money goes.
All my things are facts !
He’s just been so horrible tonight.
And for my kids more than anything I’m done with this … I’m greatful he’s only a baby so won’t remember this and I know I can give him a happy mummy with us not together.
I just wanna live with me and my 3 kids and be happy just us hes made me so unhappy like not me as a person I feel like im a shell of myself atm and now im gonna have to put up with his horribleness forever now 🥺

He is not your responsibility. The authorities will not grant 50/50 to someone homeless. All these text book tactics to scare you off. Take control, clean break or this will just go on and on.

I'm sure any family court would put the babies need as being 100% care to you. It needs it's mum more.
Also him saying he wants 50/50 is probably bravado , as it sounds like he would be incapable of providing that care as he doesn't do that now . You have a home , he doesn't .
Get him out of your home , and just concentrate on yourself and your kids.

Give him a deadline to move out. On that date pack up his stuff and put it outside. If he kicks off call the police. Change the locks if he doesn't give back the key.

He doesn't get to tell you how often he has a six month old. Contact Gingerbread, they have a good helpline and can help you work out co parenting.

Does he work, you say you don't know where his money goes, he could stay in a hotel, does he have family he can stay with. He's a cocklodger, I would kick him out today, he has no claims on your home. As above poster says call the police if he kicks off.

Call the police, explain he wont leave your home, that he is being abusive to you and your children. That you are frightened of him and you need help in getting him to leave and ask for their advice.
Also speak to women's support agencies on whats happened and how to arrange for contact in a contact centre as he cannot come back to your home and be around your children again.
Dont worry about his 50/50 fantasy its just a nasty tool to manipulate and threaten you with. Once hes gone he'll have bigger problems to worry about, like not sponging and having to fund himself for a change.