Newly single Mom

[BellaSwan91]

Hi all.

This is my first post on here and I'm not really sure what I'm looking for by posting this.

I'm a newly single mom of 2 young children 2 and 4. My husband has left recently saying he's not happy with me and doesn't love me anymore..we have been together 15 years. Married for 8.

I just can't get my head around it. I'm so overwhelmed by everything and trying to keep going for the kids but it's so hard.

He still comes round some evenings to put the kids to bed etc but doesn't help with anything else.

He's regularly said that he wants a divorce and he can't see us ever getting back to where we were. I'm so confused as nothing major has happened and nothing has changed, this is totally out of the blue 😔

I just feel abandoned and really sad.

You are in shock and when that passes you will probably grieve for some time. Feeling overwhelmed is completely reasonably. In time I strongly advise you to

a) limit his access to your home. You are entitled to some privacy.
b) think about access. He should be taking the dcs away to give you some downtime. Obviously, things like selling the family home and whether his home is appropriate, will need to be taken into account.
c) take it a day at a time. Don't ask too much of yourself. It isn't easy and you need to adapt slowly.

Think carefully about what will work better for you before agreeing to anything.

And prepare yourself for the inevitable other woman. Men seldom jump unless they have someone to jump to. I'm sorry.

Where is he living OP ? Has he got another woman and is stringing you both along?
Is your home in joint names ? Is he paying for his children ?
Im sorry you are going through this x

You need to share the children. So expect him to have a place of his own. I think you are well within your rights to decline that he comes to tuck them into bed (hero) .He should be having them throughout the week.
I would suggest talking to him about his availability to have his children. Be firm about this.

There will be another woman.

Is your job secure? How are your finances? Will you be able to afford ti keep living where you are now? Do you have RL support?

Put emotion to one side and think practical.

So sorry this is happening. It’s not easy.