DP told me tonight he is unhappy, lonely and has no motivation to do anything. I have noticed he has been a bit ‘flat’ but the conversation came about because I asked him to do ‘something’ to help me around the house. We have a 6m DD and I am on mat leave and do everything around the house. He comes home from work, eats dinner, goes on his phone, watches tv and goes to bed and repeat. He will have a cuddle with DD but doesn’t have the energy to play with her or anything like that so the rest is up to me. DP has a physical outside job so I don’t expect a lot from him but I just wanted him to contribute a bit, hence the request tonight. He then confessed that he is unhappy, lonely and lacks motivation. We had a brief discussion and agreed it might be depression. I urged him to make a doctor’s appointment and see about medication and/or therapy. He said he’d think about it.
It’s difficult because as much as I feel horrible that he feels like he does, I also have so much on my plate with the baby and house that I don’t know what else I can do to support him and kind of feel he still needs to help out more. That does feel very selfish though. Is there anything else I can do? Am I wrong to expect anything from him at this point?