Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Bad experience with Rape Crisis and spiralling

6 replies

username8490023 · 05/12/2024 19:37

I contacted Rape Crisis earlier about an incident that happened when I was a child, but that I only found out about/had confirmed yesterday. I used their webchat service as I really didn't feel up to speaking. The advisor took a long time to respond. I typed out what had happened, waited 10 minutes for a short ChatGPT-esque response then suddenly the chat ended with a message saying that our 45 minutes were up. It had been 25 minutes and most of that was waiting for the advisor to reply to me. I've basically been a mess since.

I tried contacting my employee assistance programme for the first time just now. At the start of the call I was asked for my details and told that all calls are recorded for quality and training purposes. I asked if my call could not be recorded but they said no. I asked if it could not be used for training purposes at least but that wasn't an option either, so I didn't feel I could continue the call.

I feel like I'm paralysed, like my body is physically stuck. My head is swimming, my temples are pounding and things feel distorted. I can't speak to friends. I don't want to call the samaritans because I'm not suicidal and I don't want sympathy, I want to try to make sense of things but I don't know where to turn or how to manage this discomfort. I have no idea what to do with these feelings.

OP posts:
thelakes0310 · 05/12/2024 19:44

With your EAP are there any counsellors who could assist? It’s usually a video or phone call but these guys are trained counsellors. What you tell them isn’t going anywhere unless their is a risk to safety.

I’m really sorry you’re going through this.

supercatlady · 05/12/2024 19:46

I’m sorry you’re going through this. Samaritans can help even if you aren’t suicidal - I’ve called them before.
is there something that helps to soothe you? A piece of music or TV programme?

supercatlady · 05/12/2024 19:53

NAPAC May be able to help. Helpline open til 9 tonight https://napac.org.uk

NAPAC – Supporting Recovery From Childhood Abuse

https://napac.org.uk

username8490023 · 05/12/2024 20:01

@thelakes0310 that was the idea with my EAP, they have a 24/7 counselling service but the calls are recorded.

@supercatlady I was going to contact NAPAC earlier but when I typed it into Google some really alarming reviews for the helpline came up.

I need to get a grip and force myself to move somehow.

OP posts:
GrumpyOldCrone · 05/12/2024 20:09

A family member works for an EAP. They can be very helpful, and they can provide access to counselling. You don’t necessarily need to tell them all the details: you might be able to go through the clinical assessment just by saying you’d like to access counselling to discuss historical abuse. And then they can set you up with some counselling appointments. It might depend on the EAP and what they offer, but you shouldn’t have to through to whole story just to get counselling.

It might also be a good idea to speak to your GP, if you have a good one and can get an appointment. A good GP can be very helpful in this kind of situation.

Flowers
Cynic17 · 05/12/2024 20:14

Call Samaritans - this is absolutely the type of issue they are there to listen to. Most of their callers are not suicidal.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page