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Am I being sensitive? Pt2

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Sparksfly92 · 05/12/2024 08:44

I posted a year ago about my DP and how I felt he was controlling and treating me like a child. I don't know if I am allowed to link the old thread for background? Anyway been swithering between leaving and going all year, I ended things after I had posted but ended up back with him.
I should say that I have had mental health issues such as low self esteem and recently have been having quite extreme anxiety. Most of this has been about our relationship so I'll be in a cycle of overthinking, wanting to leave, flying off the handle at him then making up. A part of me is worried I just want something to be anxious about. I realised how bad my anxiety had gotten when a family member was in hospital for something non life threatening and I was convinced they were going to die and couldn't stop panicking and actually function until I'd seen them myself.
Now again we have had an argument and I've told him i am done. He has spent last 2 days begging me to work on it, he wants us to have a healthy relationship and will be more understanding.. He has done some sh*tty things in the past but since last year's attempted break up he has tried his best yet I'm still resentful all the time so I don't know what to do. Part of me wants it to work, a part of me thinks he is manipulating me and the other part worries I can't work on my own issues if I don't leave this? All I know is I can't go on like this.

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DustyLee123 · 05/12/2024 08:49

It sounds like his presence doesn’t help you, so I’d try a separation and see how you go

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TheyDidntBurnWitchesTheyBurntWomen · 05/12/2024 10:22

I used to think I had mental health struggles and high anxiety. I also had a partner like this. Within weeks of leaving him my anxiety was gone. He is the cause of a lot of your struggles.

Sparksfly92 · 05/12/2024 10:37

TheyDidntBurnWitchesTheyBurntWomen · 05/12/2024 10:22

I used to think I had mental health struggles and high anxiety. I also had a partner like this. Within weeks of leaving him my anxiety was gone. He is the cause of a lot of your struggles.

Deep down I do think that. Just hard to know what is going on when you feel crazy from the anxiety then he is telling you he wants things to be good. But can't see any way out of the anxiety which is what makes me keep wanting to uproot everything

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