Would social services be informed?

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I can’t sleep because I’m worrying about something.

I disclosed to my GP that I was a recent victim of sexual assault by a stranger at a party. I now have PTSD like symptoms. I am getting treatment for this.

My DH knows I’m unwell and struggling to cope. He is amazing and supportive and taking the “lead” role in looking after the DC. I am drifting through life as a zombie at the moment. I told the GP I was worried that my DC were a bit confused because I’m not working at the moment and not really “present” with them.

I now can’t sleep because I’m worried that the GP might tell social services? It worries me because DH doesn’t know the full story of what happened that night and I don’t want to have to tell him.

Would this trigger any kind of referral?

I'm so sorry that's happened and well done on reaching out to your DR I really don't think it would be reported to SS, but. Please rethink about telling your husband the full story it may help take care

No I really don't think it will. They're so bogged down they wouldn't have the resources to do anything here even if it was a problem. I am sure the GP sees so much regards mum's struggling to cope. You have another parent involved in caring and youre struggling emotionally with a big traumatic event rather than being a bad parent. It's definitely not going to be an SS issue. Try forget thatif you can. Remember, they know there's another parent there even if they thought you were incapable. ( They won't).

The kids have your husband to lean on. So take that stress off yourself. This is just a blip and you're going to get through this in time.

I can't see anyhing there that would trigger a safeguarding referral, even if you were dealing with that on your own, which you're not. My DC have had safeguarding referrals put in in the past because of their dad, my ex, but the fact they've had me there was considered a protective factor and enough and he's abusive. If SS got involved everytime a parent was zombiefide and struggling they'd have no time to help the kids that actually need it. Try to put this worry aside it won't be helping you. Focus on looking after yourself and getting through this, they'll be fine with their dad caring for them and you really don't need to worry about SS, this isn't even close to meriting a safeguarding referral.

Oh sweetheart, this is the last thing you need to worry about, but I know how it is, especially in the middle of the night.

First of all, it is unlikely there will be a referral.
Secondly, even in cases where there are referrals made, if children are not being severely abused, social service involvement doesn’t mean they’d remove your children. They would offer support if you wanted it, although I can’t see what they could offer that your GP can’t.

As your children have two parents, social services would’t care at all. They have too many cases of abused children stacking up to have the resources to even look into children who are cared for.

No one is going to make you disclose more than you are comfortable with.

I hope the treatment you are receiving for your trauma is helpful. It is a horrible ordeal to deal with, and you didn’t deserve that.💐

No, they won't get involved. I'd be massively surprised anyway. Even if they did, SS involvement where a parent is struggling rather than abusive usually just means they provide a bit of support. It sounds more to me like you're spiralling with anxiety re the situation coming out? Can you ask the gp to refer you for free counselling?

Thanks all. Do you think I’d have been told if they were going to refer us? Just trying to quiet my brain

I've no idea, but you won't have been, what you've described isn't a safeguarding issue.

Yes, I believe except in cases where children are in immediate danger, and therefore removed immediately, parents are always told.

Think of it this way:
If this was something worth reporting, then that means every time a parent is pre-occupied or not fully present with their children, social services would be alerted. Any time a parent loses someone close to them and is grieving, or is stressed because of financial burdens, any time they go through something traumatic like a car accident or a burglary... Would any of these parents warrant a wellfare check? If not, then your situation doesn't either. There's no way that a GP is going to bring more turmoil to a family that has functioned well up until this incident, especially because what you're feeling now isn't forever. You are going to get through this and start to feel better eventually.

I also second that you need to tell your DH what happened. You can't be living with all that trauma and the stress of having to keep it a secret.

Yes they should tell you if they were planning to refer you. Don't worry. It's also not a report, because they aren't police and you haven't done anything wrong. Please consider telling your DH everything though.

If they were to call social services, they would have to phone social services for every parent who came into the GP with symptoms of depression and anxiety, both of which make it difficult for a parent to be fully 'present'. Unless your finding it difficult to be present means you are actually neglecting your children, there's no problem.

Sending you a lot of support. Currently going through therapy for sexual assault myself, and I really do understand how sick and dead to the world it can make you feel. Good luck.