I seperated a few month ago as I took enough of my husbands lies. Not small lies but constant decieving lies all around money. For the last few years unpaid bills , debt collectors he goes to work never gets paid. I had people at my door for him over money he owes them ( unknown to me). I was never allowed to work. Anyway there's been manipulative behaviour and coercive control involved. I'm sorting my life out now and more and more is coming to light. I feel angry as our savings gone he left me in debt. I asked him to leave However im left with the household debt. However its come to light he's been giving his family money. Not small sums but thousands he likes to pretend he's rich. His family clearly took it and said nothing. I have spoke to women's aid as I can't go into everything in detail. But I'm so angry as his family have basically ponced away our savings. No there's no dire emergency just pure greed. I am going to see a solicitor regards it all as its been done without my knowledge. I'm so angry I allowed him to control everything and he blatantly lied without flinching seemingly for years.
The term narcissist is thrown to easily but it has been used when I've spoke to others. He's trying to push his way back home However I don't want him back. Anyone been in this situation. I feel more angry than upset not just with him but his family who are all in better positions than us. To put things in context the last time I went to a hairdresser or even bought new clothes must have been at least 10 years ago. He kept all the money. If I raised it in conversation he would shout. He's never been physically violent.