The wanderer returns

[Wombat8]

My partner of 15 years had an affair and left me. He moved to a different town with his AP but didn't like it. He's now returned to my town and swanning around with her like nothing happened. I've also heard he's been telling lies about me and that I essentially forced him into this affair which some so called friends believe. It's a free country amd theres nothing I can do about this
But he was gone for a long time and I worked hard to rebuild my life. I feel that my peace has been invaded and I feel vulnerable and this massive sense of injustice. This has set me back. Has anyone else experienced this and how did you recover and rise above it? It's a small town in Scotland where everyone knows everyone else's business and I'm starting to avoid going out.

Oh my God it was 15 years ago and he is saying it was all your fault that he had an affair? I'd have short sharp answers for anyone who mentioned this to me.

I don't think it was 15 years ago, I think she was with him for 15 years.

I've not been in this exact situation, but I did have something where after I separated from my husband he said all manner of nonsense to our mutual friends about why we separated - he didn't mention his cheating! It was a rough six months, but after that those friends realised he was full of crap and cut all ties (I didn't ask them to - they arrived at that decision themselves) and fast forward to today, I have two goddaughters who he is actually supposed to be their godfather for. He's met one of them, once. People who act like this get seen through pretty soon - you just need to rise above it until gossip dies down - he'll show himself up before too long. No it's not fair, but hold strong, this will pass and life will be better.

Has he come back to your 'home town' so you and all your friends & family are there? If that's the case there is not much you can do- he can live where he wants. You need to stop caring about him and what shite he spouts. Live your best life and fuck what he thinks.
Anyone who is a true friend will not believe the rubbish he puts out there- I've 2 good mates who split from their ex and no-one pays any attention to the ex crying poor me what a bitch she was- i was forced to shag someone else!
Live your best life and do not give a flying fuck.

I am so sorry, that's what comes of posting when tired!

In any case, I'm 100% certain you didn't cause his affair!

"I essentially forced him into this affair which some so called friends believe"

Anyone who believes that you somehow pushed his penis into another woman or caused another woman to slip and fall on his dick is an utter moron. You're best off without them in your life.

Just laugh at them when you see them or pay them not mind. Show them and everyone else you don't care for that bell end and his hoochie.

Don't say a thing. You'll look more mature and people will know you did nothing