This could be a horribly long story but I'll try to summarise.
Dh's brother and his wife have severed all contact with us for, what we consider to be, really saft reasons.
It is kind of based around religion, they are in a very strange 'church' (we think it is basically a cult - as do many others - for many reasons). They have ex-communicated us as we said we did not want to attend their church.
They have a long history of cutting off contact and then reconciling.
I decided after Dd1 got old enough to recognise certain people were in her life and then disappearing, that we could no longer be a part of this as she was very confused by it all.
As a result we have not spoken for 2 years and they have never even seen Dd2.
Other members of the family do speak to them and see them.
Dh's mother rang yesterday and BIL's wife has been hospitalised with meningitus. She is out of intensive care and seems to be getting better but apparently it was a close thing.
Now, what do I do? Should I get in contact or ignore it all? I hate having any type of 'family feud' as I am so very close to all my family. However, I'm not prepared for them to waltz in and out of my Dc's lives as they see fit (I should explain that they are very full on when in touch, which just makes the times they are not speaking to us even more silent, iyswim).
Any advice would be gratefully welcomed as I'm beating myself up over this one