Abusive

[Husband3t]

Is this abusive behaviour my husband has just started yelling at me and calling me all names under the sun and swearing at me and putting me down and blaming me for everything and he threw my high heels at me and packed my suitcases and told me to leave

Is this the same op that asked if it was abusive if her dh threw her handbag at her? Has same feels.

No

Sorry to hear you are also facing the same kind of issues then. Hopefully more experienced people will be along soon to help you.

Did anything trigger this or did he just lose it?

He just lost it while we were in bed

You went to bed and he lost his temper for no reason, packed your bag and told you to leave?

Does he have a habit of suddenly swearing and packing your bags or is this the first time? Any health issues?

ah are you thinking of divorcing him for abusive behaviour ? and that is why you are asking if this is abusive behaviour.

You could probably just have added this onto the thread you already have running ?

No he did it tonight

Something must have happened to provoke this?

No nothing we were in bed and I was almost asleep

If that's the case and your husband has no history of this then I'd be very concerned about him. It could be a sign of mental ill health or perhaps something physical.

If he's still throwing things and shouting I would get somewhere safe and phone NHS Direct and get some advice. If you feel threatened then call the police.

He has a short temper and he will just start huge arguments with me out of nowhere but this is the first time he has ever thrown anything at me and my high heels where near him so I guess that is why he throw them at me and he has packed my suitcases before during arguments

Even for an abuser his behaviour sounds strange. They normally manipulate a situation where they have an excuse to abuse. For example accusing you of cheating. You might find the Cycle of Abuse helpful.

He doesn't sound mentally healthy at all and seems very unpredictable.

I would sleep in another room and put something heavy in front of the door. If you feel unsafe then contact the police. You can also call the National Domestic Abuse Helpline which is 24/7.

I would contact your local domestic abuse organisation tomorrow for advice from here. You can get free legal advice from Rights of Women. Wikivorce has lots of information you might find helpful and Gingerbread has a very good helpline.

To cut a long story short, you can't stay with someone this unpredictable and aggressive, especially if you have children. His behaviour is escalating and it's going to get worse.