Is it considered bad sex if it doesn’t last long? I recently hooked up with a guy who i’ve had a crush on for ages, he recently ended it with his ex and we hooked up a month or so after they ended, but when we ended up sleeping together the whole thing felt a bit rushed. He seemed to want to speed through everthing and the foreplay bits didnt last long and neither did the sex. I think the whole was about 10 mins max and even thoughhe finished, i didnt.
I know it may have been my fault that it wasnt that great, as i was overthinking everything and was self aware during it. He said that his room mate was due back soon and due to this I kind of started overthinking that I was going to get kicked out right after and I was just a rebound to him.
Also again my fault, but neither of us communicated properly what we liked, he did ask me what I like bit I kind of froze and didnt really answer. I’m more of a ‘lets have fun see what you like by me doing stuff when I first sleep with someone and then kind of open that discussion up more when i’m more comfortable and I think this is why he rushed stuff possibly, as he just wanted to get the job done.