MummyOfAPrincess, please tell us about your new baby....

[HansieMom]

.. and how everything went. I've been checking for the news for weeks!

No he isn't. I have just read through all the posts (just saw the thread and posted straight away).

How are you with all of this going on? Hope you are getting loads of support from friends and family. Your stepmum sounds fab.

It's so great your DD is sleeping through as I remember she was having real problems. That's down to you being a great mum and making her feel loved and supported.

PS AnneMayesR I'd forgotten your fantastic turn of phrase. He is a fucktard..don't they make a great pair, fucktard and ho?

janos i`m just trying to not let him get me down, its so very hard when i have to see him

DS is doing really well now

DD is so happy to have him home, and she doesn`t even wake in the night when DS is crying for his feed

Hi Mom, congratulations
you should feel extremely proud of yourself and I bet those close to you are, you have come through a lot and are doing well, keep it up

Thank you TLV and everyone else who has thought about me

ive got DD off to sleep and im now feeding DS while looking on MN

Of course it's hard hun, but you are just soooo much better than him and don't you forget it for a second!

I bet your DS is gorgeous

just wanted to say - congratulations. You, your DD and DS sound wonderful. That man sounds like a complete dickhead, - he was so looking for a reaction when he told you about the OW - he won't stay long there. he end up a sad lonely bastard whose kids won't give a shit about.

madrose i think your right, he wanted me to have a go with him i think, that would make him feel better i think!

I always knew this would be the next thing.

What makes me laugh most now is that he left a family for OW and now they are having there own family.

I can`t believe how quick they have done things...

Only feels like 5 mins since i first posted on here about us spliting up.

I just want to say a very big thank you to everyone who posted and helped me through the bad days, it really does mean alot to me

Ooh just had a thought, you will need to change your name to mommyofaprinceandprincess

Oh MOAP I know its not done on MN but can I please give you a massive hug {{{{{{MOAP}}}}}
You are one amazing lady and your DC are sooo lucky to have you - I know how hard it is my LO is 18 weeks already and it is so hard having to see the fucktarded H (loving that word) and hear about OW baby (when my LO was in HDU with septicaemia her baby was "rushed" in with a "rash" - funny was discharged after a few hours she just couldn't bear not being the centre of attention imagine wanting your baby to be ill to have more attention )
Anyway sorry for hijack glad to have you back and sounding so strong - as said before the best revenge is a good life and I reckon we have a head start losing them and having our wonderful DC - well done you

FWIW I think that OP got up the duff because she saw you as a threat. Fuck the pair of them and concentrate on your beautiful DCs. You are well rid.

hi macdoodle

can`t believe OW

cant believe your DDs 18 weeks already, hasnt the weeks just flown by...

and thank you for the hug

Hijack away... lovely to hear from you.

How are you and xh now?

waffletrees, i think you might be right there

We are doing ok - civil - but he thinks popping in to take DD1 to school and spending 10mins with DD2 makes him a "good dad" ...he is going to look after her one day a week when I go back to work which I find quite nervy as he doesn't know her at all (doesn't know her cues when she is hungry/tired etc) - he wasn't keen but I told him he could pay for extra day at CM then ......I have to really nag him to spend any time with DD1 or have her overnight and find I cannot be bothered we are much calmer and happier when he isn't here....
I don't ask about OW or her baby at all - find it just hurts too much would rather not know - will cross bridge of her meeting my DC when they are older Am waiting for news that she is pregnant again (though he denies they are together)....but anything I have she seems to want to
Anyway I know how hard the early days are even when you have a lot of help and sometimes it seems a very scary prospect being alone with 2 DC (one a small baby)...but it gets easier as they get bigger and TBH I am much more stressed when he is around - I like my life and my wonderful DC and so should you - if you want to chat please CAT me so I can pass on my email and mobile - being in same situation just few months ahead I do get it

macdoodle as soon as i can CAT (which i`m going to sort out when the children am in bed) i will thank you

Im also not asking about OW or the pregnancy as i really dont want to know. I also know what your saying about being much happier when he`s not around, as i also get very stressed when he is here as all he does is talk about himself and his lovely life

He only spends a couple of hours with the children every week.

When the new baby comes he will want to see them even less, i can see it coming.

I also am dreading the time when DD and DS have to know about there brother or sister

XP thinks he`s a "good dad" aswell

"XP thinks he is a good dad"

Rule number one of being a good dad:

Love your children's mother more than anything and treat her with respect and dignity. Any hurt, pain, anger, indignity, humiliation or rejection that she feels will be felt by her children on some level, no matter how she tries to shield them. If you hurt your children's mother, then you hurt your children. No ifs, ands, or buts. If you cannot love a woman this much,faithfully, for the duration of your lives...then keep it in your pants or use a condom properly you sorry piece of shit.

Anne, what constitutes being a good mother?
I'm sure there are quite a few fathers out there who actually raise their kids on their own because their spouse couldn't be bothered. Just ask lostdad here on MN. Is he being loved and respected by his e-wife? Sadly not.

And what about relationships which have run its course and both partners feel they're better off without being married to each other. Love can fade and a partner can not expect to be 'loved more than anything' when the relationship breaks apart. I think that's unrealistic. Relationships nowadays are quite transitory.Both partners have to be grown up about the fact that people move on. I know quite a few children which come from 'broken' homes and their mothers have given them most fullfilling childhoods, carefree and loved without letting them feel their personal anguish and spreading poison in their lives.

I agree with the fact that you should treat the mother of your kids with respect and cherish the seeds of the union you had. Any heavy-handed treatment will come back to you when the kids are grown up. They will make their own decisions and judge each parent when they're grown up.

MOAP: congratulations on your new baby! I hope you heal well and can enjoy your dc to the fullest!!

It's fine to end a relationship if it is bad...but when there are kids involved..then there is a certain way to end it. But let's face it..a lot of families are ruined and marriages end because one or both parties is completely selfish and deluded...they are looking for something that doesn't exist and think that they will find it with the next relationship.

Sure women screw up their families. Many women screw up parenting and their marriages badly...but not anywhere near as as much as men do.

I think MoaP is going to go on to have a much better life without her XP..so he did her a favour really.

By the way Alexa..a man can love his children's mother without being "in love" with her. He can spilt up with her without being a heartless dick. He can have enough respect for her to not start seeing anyone else for awhile. That was my point really.

Anne, that is true. And OP's ex is an an absolute youknowwhat. The saddest thing is him not wanting to see his son with 'wires all over him' Surely the point of seeing a little baby in the emergency unit is because their life is fragile and hanging by a thread. His behaviour as been inhumane.

MOAP Congratulations on your new DS hope you are recovering well

as for ex knob as others have said he is and will always be the looser

congratulations MOAP....you need to change your name to motherofaprincessandprince now!

Only just found this, congrats MoaP, I'd wondered where you were!

So sorry for not updating and thank you, also congratulations to you aswell

xp saw the children today and then went on to show off his tattoo.... her name on his chest right where his heart is WTF!

We was together 7 years, they have been together 6 months...

True love then is it?? lol

I'm not quite sure why he is trying to wind you up, MOAP, but it seems to me that he is. So not all emotional ties cut on his part, obviously.

I'm so sorry you have to put up with all this nonsense, but I really hope you are recovering well and your DC's are doing well too. I wish you every happiness, I really do. You've put up with an awful lot recently and deserve some kind of fantastic payback.

Oh darling what a prat
My H called my LO by OW babies name the other day
I think they are so self centred and self absorbed they are totally immune to other peoples hurt ...
I hope you are coping ok - TBH I am struggling finding it hard he comes and goes when he pleases and I am left with bedtime/bathtime/crying/feeding etc...but then I look at my beautiful DD 's and know it is truly him that has lost...
If you ever need a chat/friendly shoulder I do understand CAT me and I can give you my mobile