Ex girlfriend

[HJ87]

Hey

Looking for honest answers

I live with my partner
We have not been together to long, he basically wanted me, stalked me, won me over, moved me in and I have grown strong feelings for him and let my guard down

He was with another person before me who he was obsessed with, she basically used him for his money and gas lighted him, treated him like crap and sadly got away with it
they dated for 8 months
He bought property for them in her country, bought her a car to try get her back when she dumped him and so on

Than I come along 6 months later and we began dating
Some red flags have arised tho
Up until last night he only just removed her of his Netflix’s account because I said we have been together now for a couple of months, you two don’t talk, she’s blocked you on all social media platforms, I don’t really see why she needs to get free Netflix’s from you now your with me
he did actually remove it but only after I moaned at him

He mentions her a lot comparing us
and I said do I ever compare you to my exs
he said no but I’m showing you how your better than her, but still I don’t care or want to hear it

He also went to stay at her parents house for 18 days in her country not so long ago
she wasn’t there she was here in the country where I live
but still I didn’t like it that he went
it was booked a long time before I come along
and he said he needed to go to sell the property he bought for them
I had to lump it really
Tho I couldn’t stand him posting stories out on daily trips with her family

He also moaned because I removed our photos down from my social media
which yes I did
but I removed them because he never uploads me and certain people noticed it and it made me feel foolish

Yet he can comment on her parents posts giggling and laughing yet he’s never commented on any off my posts
I am happy to just get a like of him on my post

I’ve turned a blind eye to it all
and we’ve been getting on fine
than today I see he’s posted a story of her dad and him from a few months ago

I said are you serious
why cant you let that family go
its your past
i said you never post me
how do you think I feel when you post of her dad and you from months ago when you went Colombia to sell the property when you was dating me
why does that need to be posted right now?

I told him before I didn’t like it
when I questioned him he just said there’s no reason to why I posted it
i just did
and I said why can’t you post us instead
and than he went on to say he don’t post girlfriends tho he has in the past because it’s all left on their if you scroll down

anyway I lost the plot today and said it’s over
i feel I’ve had enough and feel second best

he thinks I’m stupid ending it over a photo
tho i feel there’s more to it than just that
i feel he needs to let go of her and her family because it’s making me feel so crap and sad

Hes just gone asleep like nothings happened
didnt even fight for me to stay
and I’m left wide awake now in bed feeling crap
wondering if I should just pack up and stick to my guns and leave

Get as far away from each other as possible, both you and he sound incredibly immature.

He’s married to her.

You ended a relationship because he didn't comment on one of your posts !

How old are you? Twelve?

he basically wanted me, stalked me, won me over, moved me in
this sounds healthy.

Sounds as though he's minted OP, get him to buy you a house and car before you leave.

I think you know this isn't normal or healthy, OP. Especially not stalking you at the start of the relationship. Stick to your guns and move out - this is too much, too fast. The early days are not supposed to be like this. You can do so much better

The way he stalked and won you over is red flag enough. He didn't win you over, he broke you down.
Get out of this mess. No-one needs this kind of drama.

I think I may have worded things not the best as I think some people are reading my post and completely getting it wrong

I did not leave a man for not commenting on my post,
what I was trying to explain is that I am his present girlfriend yet he makes me feel second best
Ok social media can be very babyish and cause problems depending on the person and how you view it
But seeing my partner uploading stories with his ex girlfriends family
and never for example uploads mine
of course it’s going to grate on some people
and it’s making me feel second best

I don’t know reading these comments is like making me feel I am in the wrong
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It doesn't sound as though he has healthy relationships with women: he was obsessed with his ex, he stalked you.

He is still enmeshed with his ex's family and, if she left him, is still possibly still enthralled by her.

He seems very money orientated: he has used it to try and buy his way into people's lives.

I think you would be much better extricating yourself from this relationship as I don't think it will ever make you happy.

You've been together two months, just end it. Both sound immature and overly dramatic. He still wants to be with his ex. Raise your standards.

It does seem a bit weird, I think there is something more going on than just staying with the parents to sell a home and wanting to post their photos, I think an unhealthy obsession with his ex still and unhealthy relationships with any woman he Pursues, love bombing them before you've had chance to develop at natural time frame. If you don't feel valued in the relationship then listen and don't stay in it.