Anyone feel like an outsider in their family?

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It’s hard to fully explain or even understand myself how I feel but often I feel like an outsider in my family. I feel like despite being in my early 40s my parents and siblings don’t take me seriously as a parent or even as an adult.
I guess in ways I am the outlier in my family circle (single parent, children spend part of the week with their dad so I’m not a ‘full time parent’).
I feel like because my life isn’t the traditional way they think a family is that I’m treated differently or just at arms length.
hard to explain but hoping others might get it

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Anyone?

Outsider here! I dont speak to most of my family because they make me feel like this. They don't visit me on my birthday or Christmas but go to my brothers for his. My grandma tells people I don't text or visit but she doesn't do either to me, this started during covid and I was still working. I got fed up of the comments.
I find my family very hard work.

Mine are really good and always make a big fuss with birthdays etc but I just feel so different to them

I grew up in a very religious family as someone who is agnostic, so I have always felt like the black sheep. Only very recently have I started to figure myself out and come into my own in terms of self-acceptance.

Yep. I’ve came to the conclusion it’s because I’m highly independent and can stand on my own two feet - Some sadly hate that but it’s because I have had no choice but to support myself. One of my siblings has been pushed out even worse than me but come 1st January I’ll be having the bare minimum contact which won’t be hard since it’s me that has to make the effort. Nobody has even been to my house.

People thought my little sister was lying at school when she said we were related.

I have a different skin tone, different hair colour, different build, different personality, different interests and even a different accent.

I don't understand the things they care about and they don't understand anything I care about.

If I wasn't related to them I'd never see them ever again and we would never have met as we mix in completely different circles.
We have nothing in common except DNA.

I always felt like this but my family are very dysfunctional and toxic. I’m now no contact with my parents and low contact with the rest. The only person who I really connected with was my late Nanna who I adored and is the only person that ever made me feel valued & loved. I just realised I feel so much happier when I don’t have to deal with them. They’re very judgmental and have a fixed view of me that’s not who I am, they’re almost sneering and my self confidence is hugely improved by being no contact. Mother is a Narcissist with serious anger issues and I just want to be quietly and peacefully happy away from them all. Families are complicated.

I feel a little like this in my family, no toxicity or bad feelings but just a low level feeling of being treated differently.
I'm 42 and the youngest by quite a gap, it feels like I'm still treated like a kid. I don't have children and I can't make a relationship last to save me, maybe it's disappointment

Although I do think I project a little of this onto them and I'm actually a little disappointed in myself. I try not to dwell though, they're all good people

it feels like I'm still treated like a kid

God yes! I'm fucking 70 years old FFS and the youngest - and the more new age type than their conservatism.

They treat me like either an embarasment or a fuck wit.

Always had my shit together, single mum and all. Worked, frugal living, all worked out with me.

Middle one, not so much. She feels superior though.