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Boyfriend said he didn’t know her but obvious he did

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riddla · 01/12/2024 10:43

Me and my boyfriend of 6 months walked into a cafe in an area where he says he has loads of friends. I’ve just moved in with him and so I’m new to the area. A woman around 5 years older than us said “oh hi babe, how are you?” And completely ignored me, so directed this at him, he said “hi how’s it going” and then walked past her.

Later on I asked who it was and he said he didn’t know. When I pressed a bit further because it sounded like she knew him he said “maybe she does know me but I don’t know her”. My gut is telling me he is lying and I don’t know why it bothers me so much.

I’m not usually a jealous type or distrustful but my gut is screaming at me and I don’t know why.

OP posts:
category12 · 01/12/2024 13:49

riddla · 01/12/2024 12:45

I don’t ask him anything usually. We’ve seen his exes out and about and he’s introduced me to them, no issues whatsoever.

The woman who spoke to him was looking over at him many times when we sat down. When I said she’s looking at us, he said please don’t say anything to her, I might know her just forgot and I don’t want any drama. I’m not a dramatic person at all, very quiet and shy.

It’s not jealously im feeling, it’s the feeling that he has lied. So what if it’s an ex or a one night stand? And no, I wouldn’t say she was attractive, but each to their own

Why would he be worried about "drama" if he didn't know her?

Anyway bloke who lies about random stuff generally is not good partner material.

Itsmeagainunfortunately · 01/12/2024 14:07

riddla · 01/12/2024 11:39

if a man said “hi babe” to me, he would be asking the same questions. it’s a bit more than a simple “hi”.

Well I agree with this.
But I'm rather thrown by how some posters on MN in general and on this thread in particular actually all other people " babe" or see it as a normal form I'd address.
The only time I've heard other people call another " babe" is in a pop song or a film. And in the context of a sexual or romantic relationship. Never ever heard it used in real life.
So is it a regional thing? A generational thing?

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